Depression Support Group

(U_U) dont over look the obvious...

sometimes just posting and reading it back helps. they might not be wanting replies. maybe theyre looking for people with similar problems... maybe theyre looking for friends that want to help and give support.

nothing wrong with seeking attention. (^_^)

JustMyOpinion

My personal view:

All we can do is personally choose who to reply to. If you see someone constantly posting you can choose not to reply to them. People who post for attention are hurting in someway and I don't think there should be a judge as to who is an attention seeker and who isn't. They may be doing what they do because right now it's the only way they know how to deal with their depression. In the past I had many people explain to me quite logically why I needed help or what would help but logic doesn't really work when you're depressed so I don't know how you could help these people. I think the hope is that they post and eventually something triggers them to deal with their depression in a more effective way. I do see where you're coming from though.

I understand that it can seem annoying,but a little word of support might be all they need. Some of us don't find it so easy to share with others. If we know the (regulars) lets not forget them,but those that are not known for this type of posting,we should be extra vigilant for. They may not have any other support or this might be their only way of feeling better. Don't feel bad about this,we all get irritated at times. hugs xx

I get what you're saying. You do get to know the names that keep popping up, and I'm ashamed to say I ignore them eventually as it starts to make me feel I'm useless at helping them. I suppose all we can do is help as much as we can, not be judgemenatl, and walk quietly away if it becomes too much for us. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make it drink.

I think the problem is that they don't have enough coping mechanisms. They need more things to help themselves other than writing to Crisis Center and saying they're going to die.
As far as the person posting 20 times, who is that? If others "tuned him out" we couldn't hardly be blamed for that. Clearly he is the classic case of someone "crying wolf"

I know who your talking about. someone in that bad of shape really needs to go to the hospital. I ignore post like that.

My mind also notes the ones who seem to be constantly in crisis.

After a few times of giving love and gentle suggestions....if they are still doing and saying the same stuff. I am finished with them.

I do not apologize for it. That is the way I am. I do not go to their repeated posts and berate them for not taking action or being proactive...I just ignore them from then on.

There are enough people here on the depression board that others can do the coddling and enabling (supporting?) of these specific types.

most of you know depression is on going. it's not ridiculous that some1 has suicidal thoughts EVERY night. In fact, it's common that they have the SAME suicidal thoughts every night. So is it a surprise that they post the same thing over and over? I'm sorry but your "huggles" won't fix their problem once and for all, so don't get pissed off when they come back the next night looking for the same thing.

I'm surprise that a bunch of depressed people don't understand that depression is a daily thing and it's often about the same thing. So what, you think it's impossible for some1 to have suicidal thoughts for 20 nights in the past month?

Of course, if you choose to ignore them, it's your right.

But I don't think you should berate them and call them "attention seekers."

So what if they ARE seeking attention? If attention makes them feel better, then isn't that good? What if some attention stopped them from cutting?

What if they can't go to the hospital? What if they can't go to the professional? This isn't a hospital, it's a support board. It's not wrong for people to ask for support, even it's the same thing over and over.

this is a support site.. no matter who or why or how many times.. that's all it is.. support, doesn't matter to me how many times they post it, nothing any of us really say is going to cure any one here... just support one another best we can.

They need to be repeatedly told to seek professional help, not coddled.