Depression Support Group

me..

Did you used to be happy??

me.. i dont think i will ever be myself again..i think eveon once/if i beat this depression i will NEVER be the same again..

is there a "beating depression"? sometimes i feel stuck and its a game you don't win...you just tie because you "control" it with medication etc.

How did you know it is like you are talking directly to me I have lost my will my motiivation but i hope there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
How can we feel so lonely when there are so many people around us; friends, family and peers yet we can get so lonely.

Another person cannot prevent me from feeling lonely, but my inner emptiness can be satisfied. When I can come to value my own company, and become my own worthwhile companion.

I spend more time with myself than with anyone else. Wouldn’t it make sense to put some energy into making that relationship as fulfilling as possible?

One of my illusions has been that only another person can fill that empty place within me. Example; if only they were with me now, If only they were more attentive now, I wouldn’t be so lonely but I remain lonely even if after these conditions were met.

Feeling alone and lonely increases our fears of inadequacy. In our alienation from others, paranoia grips us. We yearn to feel connected with someone, we need a sense of belonging, every one of us; belonging to the neighborhood; belonging to our team of coworkers; belonging to DS the group we call friends. Knowing that we do belong gives us an inner peace, warmth that comes with security, well being that we belong to something helps eliminate or fears and feelings of emptiness.

We need to be conscious of our judgments of others, be they verbalized in gossip or only held by our silence. These judgments act as a measure of our own self-image. Our security in knowing we belong, that we are one, relieves us of the need to gossip or judge others unfairly. Real closeness will come when I can talk about myself rather than anyone else.

When I stop expecting others to meet all my needs I will search for new ways to enjoy my own friendship. And when I do get lonely, I have the comfort and support from my DS friends, myself, God who never leaves me.

I will work on building a special relationship with myself and hope to discover how un-lonely being alone can be.

I feel like I am just a shadow of myself.

That's me, about all the time.

#8 Kala, for real?

I'm very far away from who I used to be. I try not to remember in hopes that I'll learn to accept this. It's not a very good strategy I know.

yep.

I used to be fun and bubbly. Not necessarily outgoing, but a had several decent friends and I actually hung out with them and went places. The last time I attended anything social was in 1996......my 10 year HS reunion.


incidentally......I was 40 months pregnant with my 3rd child (contractions periodically) ...had my baby the Monday immediately following reunion weekend.