Depression Support Group

agreed people probally think i am bcause i reach out a lot.

and guess what i dont care haha because i know im not.


and i know your not hunni ignore them their just stuck up their own asses

i have often wondered that myself...why it is that when someone obviously needs attention, people's first reaction is to deny them their need. as if giving them attention will 'reinforce' their neediness...it's most likely just the opposite, if people paid attention, they wouldn't need it so much. and by giving someone some 'attention' what does it really cost you? what are you really out? nothing.

I agree testy. Most people want some attention & to be listened to. Calling someone here an "attention seeker" is just mean.

i rarely ask on the boards for help because of this. i have offered and given help to other on the boards and in private but found when i needed help i was called a attention seeker so now i ask privately to trusted friends for help

You said it all!!! Thanks some one needed to:)

Sometimes the point of the forum does get over-looked.

I encourage people to ask for help. And I admire those that do.

I think people have an issue when certain codes are broken frequently by the same person.

I've known of people who repeatedly claim they're suicidal, and then they just suddenly disappear.

It leaves people absolutely distraught with worry.

Then the next day the person will come back and act like nothing has happened.

That in itself is quite sad and I guess people who do that do need help. I just personally can't get involved with such people because it's just too distressing when they disappear.

Do you get what I mean?

I've written this with no one in particular in mind. I just see it happening.

Good point, Vix.

Also, there will always be insecure, attention-starved folks who post 27 threads-a-day, or are compelled to continue responding to their own thread because no one else is responding, or are compelled to keep bumping up their own threads because no one is responding, or are compelled to make trivial, mainstream commentaries or present non-controversial opinions (i.e., "I think murder is bad! What do you all think?).

I might read these types of threads, chuckle, then move on to something more substantive.

Thank goodness we have the freedom to express ourselves - whether we're attention-starved or relatively secure!

Well said, Testycatlady!

People come here for support. There are many kind, compassionate, supportive people who help others, despite their own pain and problems.

Those who attack others only hurt the community. If someone doesn't like to see
another member's posts, they can just ignore them and not read them.

They do not have the right to attack that other member. It hurts the whole community, taking away the sense of safety and support from everyone here.

Vixi.. I understand what you mean. But wouldn't it be kinder to just ignore people who repeatedly do that, then to bash? Also.. the people who do that sort of thing are often very ill in reality. Sometimes they may not even remember doing it. Especially if drugs or alcohol are involved. But what bothers me is when someone will ask for help... they can ask every few days for all I care... and they get called attention seekers as if that is a bad thing. I know that it is merely my good fortune that keeps me from being on here every day asking for help. Because of complications brought on by medicine I took for decades, I can no longer take most strong medicines. My liver will no longer tolerate it. By rites.. I should be one of those who post about their depression on these boards every day... But I don't. I don't for many reasons... One of them is because I fear the label of attention seeker. One is because I have learned that it is just as helpful to me to help people out as it is to be on the receiving end of help (By helping others I receive distraction). I also have learned about the power of laughter, and it's benefit regarding elevating the mood. Another reason I seldom post is because I have a fantastic network of friends on IM who I watch out for, and who in turn watch out for me, when I get down. I know there will always be people who we get tired of seeing post on the boards... But we have to remember that there probably is a reason that they are posting. It could be that they have no one to talk to and are lonely... We don't know why. That is the point. I know that when I started here I had troubles that I needed to talk about. I even had a thread that people could just drop in to talk to me, because I was just so ill and very lonely.
If a person makes us frustrated, we have to learn to just walk away with out making the harsh critical comments... I realize that that is possibly the hardest thing to do, but for our own mental health we must at least try.
I just want to see DS return to the supportive helpful site it was when I first joined. A place where people can feel comfortable to voice their worries or feelings, without fear of being picked on.


HUGS!

Oh I completely agree about the ignoring thing. I never comment negatively on such peoples post, and as I said, they're in need of help too.