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thank you for posting this. it is true, we forget what we have and focus on what we are losing when being a caregiver. i care for my mentally handicapped daughter and its very hard. my heart goes out to those that have children in the way as you said. i wil be celebrating my 40th wedding anniversary in a few months and i am thankful for that as well. your post was very uplifting, thanks, judy

Years ago I had a thought that I want to share. I lived in a time when if you complained about anything in your life you were made to feel guilty about it. And then I realized that it didn't matter whether it was one person who was trying to kill you or a government. Someone was still trying to kill you.

To be sure, there are a lot of people out there who have troubles, and I honor the reality of their pain. But that doesn't mean I'm supposed to feel guilty when my own life has reached the point were I feel pain.

So yes, let us all have some peace in our lives. But I'd like mine without the guilt trip. It doesn't matter if what is going wrong in my life isn't as horrible as the worst thing that is going wrong in someone else's life. I need to honor the fact that I am feeling pain when I am.

good morning ImAstar. for some reason this morning i am having a hard time understanding your post. i dont understand the point of feeling guilty. is someone trying to make you feel that way because you are feeling pain right now?

I meant in no way to make anyone feel guilty, just a thought to make it through these very difficult times which extend into years. This is the place to vent without judgement, I don't believe anything in my original post suggested otherwise.
Some people have said we are too negative here, well everyday I put a smile on my face, go to work and don't complain to anyone, because who can understand this pain? I, as we all do, deserve an Oscar for the performance we put on each and every day.
No, no guilt trip for hating this, just a moment to reflect and an attempt at some peace.

This is a safe place to vent. No matter what we are venting about.

hi tooyoung, i found nothing in your post that would make anyone feel guilty. caregiving is very hard on us physically and emotionally, drains us at times but we get through it somehow. May God help you get through your pain and give you unfound strength. hugs for you tooyoung!!