Conduct Disorder is a pattern of repetitive behavior where the rights of others or the social norms are violated. Possible symptoms are over aggressive behavior, bullying, physical...
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at a loss of what to do with my 4 yr old son HELP!
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I have a 4 1/2 year old son who is very aggressive. I am going to list some of the things he does:
*Hits,punches,bites, scratches, kicks, pushes me (mom) and his (dad SOMETIMES). *He will tell me or his dad that he wants to kill us or say " just kill me" * He goes into rages, he will scratch his nails into my arms and get so mad he shakes and scream. He does this when he does not get his way. Tonight he totally freaked out because I would not take him to the store to buy a toy. These rages last for up to an hour of hitting ect. When he finally calms down i can talk and he understand what he did was wrong but will do it again the next min. He really worries me. I am scared for him as he gets older. I am really at a loss. I dont know where he came up with the i'm going to kill you or the just kill me. He also has some other things that worry me. Every time i try and get him dressed he freaks out. He will only wear certain shorts. he says all of them are to tight also his shoes and socks are to tight he says they hurt. He will throw himself down and scream owe owe owe. I thought maybe if i took him shopping and let him pick out his own stuff he would maybe wear it. NOPE! NOTHING. The stuff is not to tight at all. I dont know what his issue is. also another thing wierd is whenever we are walking and a car drives by he stops and puts his hands on his ears he does that when he flushes the toilet or when the bath is running. basically at any loud noise. I dont know why he does it. I dont think that is normal. The reason i listed all of this is because i dont know if they are signs of something or what. I am also wondering what kind of doctor to take him to. I just cant take another day of battle with him. My arms and back are sore from being punched and scratched. I love him so much and just want my little boy back. If anyone knows what kind of doc i should see or any info please let me know. Thank you Posted on 11/08/07, 01:11 am |
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I would probably chat to my family doctor, he can ask all the right questions, and reassure you, refer you, whatever you need. I assume you have discipline strategies in place, you are giving a cuddle and all the ordinary stuff...and wondering why you are getting all this return? Hang in there, there is an answer...and it is your job to find it (one of the great things 'they' don't tell you about being a parent!). Maybe choose a few things that are not negotiable, swearing at you, hurting each other, and separate him when this happens and calmly stick to it? I tried that and my son kicked a hole in the wall, so I can't gaurantee that works...
Good Luck, may the force be with you, I'll be thinking of you. jen 
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that is just how my step son was at that age and he has been to dr.'s from kindergarten to now grade 4 and was just recently diagnosed with conduct disorder. One thing I wish I did more was be more persistant with the dr.'s and counsillors. If you feel something isn't right and it sends off an alarm to you don't let a dr. or anyone else try to patronize it or downplay it... as a mother you know that something is wrong. That was my biggest mistake was to let people say "no that's not weird" when I knew it was and low and behold these things WERE symptoms of the disorder I just needed someone to LISTEN to me. I understand everything you are describing and I will tell you that the sooner you get the help the better because it can be a LONG LONG process. You want to get help for this before he gets too big and definately before his teens when it just plain gets scary. Don't let anyone make you feel like you are a bad parent. It is very frustrating when my son freaks out in a store and it doesn't stop. I can give a time out in a store (yea right), I can be forceful, I can deny something... doesn't matter and parents look at you like you have a spoiled child or something... you don't. You have a mentally ill child and you are doing the best you can. I know your son is only 4 but get him to a specialist ASAP and check out this site and see if anything rings familiar (keeping in mind he is only 4)http://www.aacap.org/cs/root/facts_for_families/conduct_disorder
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I can not, for the life of me remember the name of the disorder, but the clothes and holding his ears and outbursts sounds like something I read once. I would print out what you have written and go to a child psychologist and let that doctor read what you have written. I wish you nothing but the best!
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without knowing more about what else he does. It sounds that he might have sensory issues with the clothing and high function autism. An occupation therapist would be the route for the clothing things. And a Pediatric Psychologist for the behavioral issues. You need to start now before it gets totally out of hand.
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