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And Now she hates me and wants nothing to do with me. She says im a freak, and that im messed up. She says that im sick, and she wants nothin to do with me...:((
Posted on 07/15/08, 01:07 am |
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she could have said those things out of shock. but in the likelyhood that she didnt... thats what you call conditional love. you dont need that. you need to have friends who will love you no matter what you are. 
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Hugs to you..im sorry to hear about your friend but if she said those things then shes really not ur friend to begin with becasue she wouldnt judge u in that way
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hopefully rainintears is right, and she did just say that out of shock. rejection is hard to deal with, but kfisher is right. if she said those things to you, then she wasn't your friend to begin with. true friends will love you for you, not who they think is you.
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Some things just suck. That one is way up there on my list. I'm sorry to hear that you are having to experience that pain.
In my lifetime I have found that for every fundamentalist friend and family member that has shut me out there have been many, many others who have welcomed me with open arms and hearts. All young people have to leave home at some point (and I don't just mean the house in which you were a kid, I mean the network of family, friends, church, school, etc. surrounding you as you grew up). It can be especially difficult for those of us who are LGBT because as we come to terms with who we are we often face painful rejections - like this one. So our task then becomes (in addition to growing in our own self-understanding) creating the new network of people around us who will be our family, who will sustain us, who become our home. Part of that network consists of people you already know, part of people you've yet to meet. I want to assure you right now that those people ARE out there, that you will find them, that they will cherish you for who you are as you are. I grieve with you over this betrayal and loss, and at the same time I have faith that you will eventually surrounded by your TRUE family. peace, Brian
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Listen to Fiddler....I haven't read a wrong word in his responses yet. Have faith that perhaps this friend was the 'bad egg' of the lot and that you will not have to worry as much with the rest, but he's right...the unfortunate thing is that we will still have to face some rejection. Society as a whole just isn't ready to accept us as normal human beings. it sucks, but it's reality. We'll all get there through love and support of each other. hang in there. we're all here for you.
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