Coming Out Support Group

Maybe its so hard to do because insociety it isnt seen as "acceptable" whereas everything else you have done was seen as a good thing. The worl puts it into such a negative light that people in the closet, people like us, feel like we're disappointing everyone by telling them that we are gay. Just a thought. I suggest you tell someone though, because its going to eat you up inside if you dont. Not telling is the same as not being yourself and that isnt right. Feel free to message me if you ever need to.

I dont know if what I am about to say will help your situation any. I live my life as an openly gay man. I STILL after 12 years have regret of leaving my daughter who is now 15 and my ex-wife. BUT I can honestly say living my life as who I am has been the best for all of us. My family "accept" don't necessarily like me being gay but they do accept me. I don't bring my friends around my family usually and live my life the best I can. I will happily chat with you on yahoo or email it is both jimalee2000. Good luck, you can only do what your heart says. BTW there are some great supportive church's out there some gay oriented and some gay friendly they are a huge help also.

I had these same thoughts when I first realized I was going to have to tell my parents. I've dealt with a lot for someone my age. I recognized I was stronger than many of my friends. I know I am a capable person, but that doesn't mean I'm 100% invincible.

And then I realized I'm the sort of person who works well with a well-laid out plan. I over-prepare for -everything-. The preparation helps keep me calm so I don't collapse into a nervous wreck, and it also helps me cope with things should they not go favorable, because at least I can say, "I knew that was coming and here's my plan for it."

So, a few years ago, I started preparing for the worst case scenario: my parents disown me. And when I was prepared for that, I decided was the time to tell them, flat out, with no tricks, as honestly as i can be. No fancy words. No fronts. No lies. No excuses. Simple statements. I've noticed the first step to all of this is to set up the confession. You have to stop everything else and let it be known that something serious is about to be said, something that demands their full attention.

Good luck, luv. 42 years is a long time, but it's not too late to start being honest and I believe being honest is the best thing we can do in this life.

what to do - first admit those three words to yourself. repeatedly to yourself is what needs to happen first. I hid for twenty years of my marriage and two children later and I am now the happiest and saddest that I have ever been. Its rough, yes but its liberating at the same time. Everything is "acceptable" as long as you accept yourself in this role. I feel the more that you hide the harder you make on yourself and those that are there to support you. They are there just hidding in the shadows because you have not asked for their support. Ask and you might be suprised at who responds.