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wow. that's got to be a hit to the chest. especially to his wife.

and it's amazing that he wants to go back.
and it's even more amazing that you are this accepting of him!!!!!!!!!!!!! kudos to you!!!!

but, you should tell him you know. it's his thing to deal with untill he's ready to open up. so, the only thing you should do is to tell him that you love him, and support his decisions. and that you love him for him! let him know you're there for him no matter what.

his wife is his best friend. and he loves his them both. that too is pretty awsome. you son might not be gay. he could be "bisexual" if you want to put a term on it. but, that was off subject...just a side thought. anyway, if he wants to go back, and she's willing to take him back, then he should go.
tell him to talk to his wife, with no secrets, and compleatly open communication from both sides.

keep up updated allrigh?? i want to hear from you!

oops, i just saw a typo that compleatly changed my meaning!!
"you **shouldn't*** tell him. . ." sry!

I really think that you should tell him that you know and hug him and tell him that you still love him. Coming from a culture where being gay is wrong and unacceptable, I have been struggling to come out because I am afraid I will be disowned. I have given up my happiness; to have a man in my life; to live a happy life to conform to the cultural rules. I wish my mom and my family could see that I was gay and love me for who I am. Being in medicine, I thought the process of coming out would be eaiser, but it has been quite the opposite experience. It hurts to not be free; it hurts to not have that special person in my life. Please tell your son that you care for him and will always love him before it's too late.

momofChris I am so happy and sad. Happy you support your son in knowing being "married" just because isn't the right thing to do. I was in his situation 12 yrs ago. I now have a beutiful 15 yo daughter. I did things badly, I alienated her and my family and did my own thing trying to "find" myself. Now we have a great relationship. I am best friends with my ex-wife almost to an unhealthy point. I mow her yard take care of her house blah blah... BUT we do not live together, we do family things together because we are both single but I live my life as an openly gay man.
The only sad thing is because we are sexual beings Chris will never be able to control without much grief his sexuality. And his wife will always wonder if he is faithful, she is good enough etc.
I suggest you go to Chris let him know you know and how you feel.
I can be reached at email and yahoo messenger both at jimalee2000 good luck Jimmie

I definitely agree with everyone that you should tell him you know. He's probably struggling with telling you and it can be immediate relief of stress dealing with that. It's hard to tell parents. Seeing disappointment in their eyes can be like a bullet to your heart. Let him know that you know and that you want him to be happy and definitely that you think he and his ex-wife can't be happy if he does go back. He's an adult, but he'll always be our son, so you have every right to advise him for the rest of his life!

I agree. Just be honest and tell him you know and that you accept him and love him. Right now that is what he needs to hear. It will mean the world to him im sure. And he defiantly shouldnt go back to his wife. They both deserve to be happy, and they can still be friends and he can still be a father. I hope everything works out!