Coming Out Support Group

hey dude it can be hard i know... but it just one of those things in life that gay ppl like us have to go through... its sad that it has come from ur dads mouth... it makes it feel that much worse... the only thing i can say is that maybe he'll come around...and at the moment all u can do is wait.
good luck dude and whatever u do ... dont be ashamed of who u are...

~kabes~

but dude thats my dad! how the hell can he say that?

dude that sucks just hang in there i know hes ur dad and all but hell eventually come around

he's ur dad....and old ppl are funny with things like that... u know with being set in their ways.... he's probably always had this image in his head of what u were going to grow up to be and now he's having trouble dealing with the fact that its just not gonna happen... family are still family he should come around... make sure he knows that he's still ur father and that nothing is going to change that.

~kabes~

check this shit out! I was thinking about it and decided that maybe I should call him to let him know that I love him and that I'm sorry I called him an asshole (I called him that after all that shit he said to me) and he said I'm dead to him and hung up on me. I don't think he'll be coming around anytime in the next century!

dude i know how you feel, my dad was the same way, and he hates me now. so i know what its like, just hang in there dude. and if you ever want to talk, im here for you.

I seriously doubt that any of your fathers "Hate" you.

What your dad is doing here is showing his own ignorance and inability to understand. Like "Kabes" said, your dad had certain ideas and expectations about what you were going to grow up to be like and you just wrecked those ideas, and it's ok that you did. But just like you needed time to adjust to the idea that you're gay, so does he. What you need to remember is that you've already had that time and you're in a different place than he is about it.

I know he hurt you with his comments, and I can't blame you for feeling that way, but If you want a relationship with him, just keep loving him and show it. Be available to talk about it, or about anything and support him like you want him to support you.

Most likely, once he's had time to process what you've told him he'll come to terms and come back around...

And if he doesn't? Well sweety, you're better off having gotten this out of the way now. I'm 33 and my parents still don't know, because I'm just as afraid as you were and could very well expect the same results you got. Just don't let his actions and your pain prevent you from living your life to the fullest!

Good luck.

I have the same problem with my dad we don"t have the best relationship im always cousing and yelling at him i wish we coud have the father ans son relationship but we don"t and as i look at the problem i know thats it is all my fault i know its hard to hear that from your dad i woud get pretty pist off at that i wish you guys relationship was good ..........

i totaly no how it fealy my whole family have kicked me out
let me have a ? you feal rejected useles and under valed like you dont desurve to live ? my family are devorcing me as soon as posible 16 that is you should try and get him to understand if you can i cant bear to see another lose there family but you are you be proud be true if it getts hard dont be cared to talk to me i will be hear for you you can say anything ..... hope it gose well hope it dose tell me how it gose ..... i would love to no

dude fuck him ya its hard but if he dosent want to be ur family then he doesnt deserve to be just because he is ur blood doesnt mean u need him
family isnt just ur relitives it is everyone that loves you for you