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Hello. I've been attracted to women since I was a little girl, but most of my relationships have been pretty innocent. In college I dabbled with making out and the like, but later settled down with a really nice man.

We love each other and are generally happy, but sometimes I still find myself thinking what might have been. Or, I'll have a girl friend, and suddenly I'll be attracted to her, and feel really afraid, like I'm a pervert. Most of the girls I'm attracted to for some reason are femmies like me, and I assume not gay. I don't know why that is.

Does anyone else feel this way? On the outside I'm a sweet, gentle girl that everyone percieves as "good", yet I feel like I'm a sex fiend, loving men and women. Mostly outside of my marriage I only like women, because my husband is enough "man" for me (hehheh), but occasionally I've been attracted to other men, also.

What is wrong with me, and why do I like the straight-ish women, too? I'd love to hear what you think. This is something I've only told a couple people in my life, and sometimes it really burns me up.
Posted on 12/10/07, 10:12 am
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Reply #1 - 12/11/07  9:57am
" Hmmm...no comments. So maybe I am the only one in the world!!! Boo-hoo! "
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Reply #2 - 12/11/07  1:56pm
" I sent you a message. Did you not get it? "
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Reply #3 - 12/13/07  7:06am
" I did. Thank you! It's good (in a way) to know there are people out there who may be living their lives as a hetero, but have experienced things such as this. I think it's more common than we think. "
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Reply #4 - 12/13/07  8:48pm
" I keep trying to respond to your question. I'll send you a message. "
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Reply #5 - 12/13/07  11:26pm
" You are attracted t0 whomever you are attracted too..it does not make your perverted or????Just be yourself it is ok "
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Reply #6 - 12/14/07  1:15am
" There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, I promise. Have you ever heard the term "bi-curious"? That's you! You have these feelings/attractions for femmie women, and that is perfectly natural. If you or your husband believe in sexual experimentation within your marriage, then you are able to explore it. If not, and you are happy within your marriage, then all it means is that you and hubby have one more thing in common! As long as it's not detracting from your marriage and you are still happy with hubby, don't worry about it too much and keep on lookin'! Trust me, you are no pervert, we all have different taste (some are just not brave enough to say it...)
Wishin' you luck and love,
Mahadra "
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Reply #7 - 12/14/07  1:35pm
" OK..Can I just say..bisexual and straight don't go in the same sentence? If you are Bi that is fine..just say so "
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