Codependency Support Group

I posted this in another group this morning, but I think it fell on deaf ears. Somebody here may want to hear it more.

Letting Go = removing our attention from a particular experience or person and putting our focus on the here and now.

"Each Day A New Beginning" – Hazelden

"Letting Go" Doesn't Mean Stop Caring.

To "let go" does not mean stop caring; it means I can't do it for someone else.

To "let go" is not to cut myself off; it's the realization that I can't control another.

To "let go" is not to enable, but to allow learning from natural consequences.

To "let go" is not to try to change or blame another; it is to make the most of myself.

To "let go" is not to care for, but to care about.

To "let go" is not to fix, but to be supportive. It is not to judge, but to allow another to be a human being.

To "let go" is not to be in the middle, arranging all the outcomes, but to allow others to affect their destinies.

To "let go" is not to be protective; it is to permit another to face reality.

To "let go" is not to deny, but to accept. It is not to nag, scold, or argue with, but instead to search out my own shortcomings and correct them.

To "let go" is not to criticize and regulate anybody, but to try and become what I dream I can be.

To "let go" is not to regret the past, but to grow and live for the future.

To "let go" is to fear less and love more without the harm to you.

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Thanks to PHILIP from the Yahoo group Recovering_Couples_Anonymous for this bit of wisdom
Posted on 08/31/07, 05:08 pm