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Who Knows Best? LG 6/2
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Wednesday, July 2, 2008
You are reading from the book The Language of Letting Go Who Knows Best? Others do not know what's best for us. We do not know what's best for others. It is our job to determine what's best for ourselves. "I know what you need." . . . "I know what you should do." . . . "Now listen, this is what I think you should be working on right now." These are audacious statements, beliefs that take us away from how we operate on a spiritual plane of life. Each of us is given the ability to be able to discern and detect our own path, on a daily basis. This is not always easy. We may have to struggle to reach that quiet, still place. Giving advice, making decisions for others, mapping out their strategy, is not our job. Nor is it their job to direct us. Even if we have a clean contract with someone to help us - such as in a sponsorship relationship - we cannot trust that others always know what is best for us. We are responsible for listening to the information that comes to us. We are responsible for asking for guidance and direction. But it is our responsibility to sift and sort through information, and then listen to ourselves about what is best for us. Nobody can know that but ourselves. A great gift we can give to others is to be able to trust in them - that they have their own source of guidance and wisdom, that they have the ability to discern what is best for them and the right to find that path by making mistakes and learning. To trust ourselves to be able to discover - through that same imperfect process of struggle, trial, and error - is a great gift we can give ourselves. Today, I will remember that we are each given the gift of being able to discover what is best for ourselves. God, help me trust that gift. Posted on 07/02/08, 07:07 am |
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Sherroll,
Wise words indeed..... 
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First, to say giving advice isn't our job? I disagree, as human beings it is our job to help our fellow man and one of the best ways to do that is to give advice. Sure, it's up to them to think about,dissect, and ultimate accept or reject that advice, but to give it to begin with is noble and kind as long as it's coming from a thoughtful and loving place. Sometimes people need help.They need advice. They need direction and guidance.. Otherwise, why are we all here? On this website? You also have to realize that people do *not* always know what's best for them. There have been many times when I absolutely thought the best thing for me was to kill myself. A few weeks ago a friend's husband honestly thought it was the best thing for him to hold her by the throat (to scare her away). People are absolutely horrible at knowing what's best for them. Because their thoughts, decisions, and actions are skewed and often distorted.
that being said. We should all listen to ourselves and our hearts.. but it's not the *only* thing we should listen to.
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