Codependency Support Group

People who don't take responsibility for their actions or problems are usually just miserable people in denial. I know, I used to be one of them.

Knowing you have an issue or a problem usually gives you the capacity to work on that problem and to love yourself despite it. Everyone has issues -- it is what you do with them that matters.

you are very young to be so aware - can you not try to put this on the back burner at times? I suspect not. But you stand a better chance of coming through things and not having future problems, you know, you really do. I wasnt in touch with myself at all at 17, just thoroughly enjoying myself and probably very selfish. So you have a GOOD start.. however, do try to have fun as well? ;) Cathrynn X

I think I became so aware of everything when I was 17 because that is when my parents divorced and I just began evalutating everything and never stopped. But you're right, I should be having more fun and I have been trying to. Having fun is hard for me to do though! Can you believe that!? lol

Sweetie, you are beautiful if you want to be & can acknowledge that you are beautiful! Please try to STOP beating yourself up(your bf has done enough of this!).
Everyday, I don't care if it's 1,2,5,10...go to the mirror, look in it & say, "Man, I'm good looking!"...DO IT BY ROTE & feel free to ADD other POSITIVE comments(i.e. do it even if you don't feel it!)...point is, you have someone (s'cuse my language)who did a mind-fuck on you & you need to re-program yourself NOW!
You look at other's people's plates like the grass is greener over there. Not so, my friend! I am one of the one's who can "stuff it". I put a wall on & wear a fake smile when my heart & soul are crying. We ALL have different issue's/struggle's & really not one is better than the other.
PLEASE take care of yourself & find support groups & numbers you can go to/have at your fingertips. I'm not just saying this. You are a very bright young lady & a local support group will give you mentors, safety & hopefully a vision of what life can be like again. Thing's will change, if you want them to, but, you WILL have do some work to get there. We, at DS, are here always. Support groups also equal new beginnings & new friends...a coffee buddy perhaps?

i agree with hoops..i understand today that the people that blot out there issues live miserable lives..today i feel grateful that god allowed me this gift of self awareness to be able to live a great life..rather than the prison in my mind..i dont want the other way of life anymore..the greatest gift i have learned is that i can carry a message of hope today to other sick and suffering people..the true miracle is to see the light bulb go on in someone and watch them change there lives right in front of you..and remember every dog has there day..i had mine
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james

thank y'all for your responses. they all are very helpful. last night I went to books a million and sat down and read for 2hours. I got the book Women Who Love Too Much. I absolutely love it!!! I also read some stuff on self-esteem. I got an uplifting cd and I prayed.......and cried because I realized that I was the one causing MY OWN PAIN. But I have this prayer I say when I start getting regrettful and i am just trying to keep moving forward. I have a little more faith today.

I know exactly how you feel. I ask my therapist many times why do I have to experience all this pain and some personalities, like my x, are able to just move on and not let anything bother them. I have his responsed ingrained in my head...at the end the ones who deal witht heir pain/take responsibility/deal with reality will be able to find peace. Time helps and going through it many times I do see the tiny bit of peace I have gained. Hang in there. Thinking of you.