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Can you get a restraining order of some kind?
I know it's hard but remember you can't control him or make him do or not do soemthing (not like what he is trying with you). Good luck!

Stop emailing with him AT ALL. Contact your local police department and put a restraining order in. I would talk to your church,and tell them why he's joined and that he's been verbally and emotionally harassing you! I would suggest you keep any and all emails he sends your son,print them up and bring this to the police. Any and all proof of his harassing communications should be stopped as much as possible.

He is trying to break your spirit. More so he's trying to control you...and make you feel victimized. How old is your son? Just curious in order to give more helpful advice in the situation.

Stay strong.
Hugs,

Wow...he sounds real mature...I can't imagine why you left him?! (Haha!) I'm with everyone else...No contact with him. He's a control freak and just trying to get to you. Your son shouldn't be subjected to that either. Sorry you are going through that.

change your e-mail account. Do not make your account public.

Simple. Call the police. These are all "nusiance contacts" they will file a complaint and get a restraining order. Change your email account and your phone number. Stop engaging him

This is stalking. My ex did the same thing. He bought a jetski b/c I jetski. Started a jetski club b/c I run the local jetski club (after trying to join mine and me repeatedly booting him). He joined meetup.com (where my group is) and joined the other groups I'm in to try to see me at a meetup. I had to inform meetup that he was stalking me and using the website as a means to do so. He was banned from the site, twice, but kept rejoining w/ a different email addy. He went to work at my old company (small 2 man business). He sent me emails all the time, to work and home. He called and texted me. He sent me instant messages. He did EVERYTHING to get my attention. I told him to stop stalking me in Nov of last year (almost a year ago), he continued to try to contact me for over 6 months without a response from me in any way. I ignored him for over SIX months, and he still kept trying. I moved and bought a new car. Hoping that would help (he used to drive by my old place). He found out where I live and what I drive and sent me an email w/ my picture attached saying he knew about my new place and car and that he's seen me out jetskiing. I finally went to the authorities. I had saved all the emails and stuff. He was arrested for Menacing by Stalking and was sentenced to 5 yrs probation. He's not allowed to contact me at all now or he will go straight to jail for the full sentence.

Here is the full story on mine:

http://dailystrength.org/people/31...

Well I do not agree with calling the police or putting a restrainer order on the father of your child.

You may have moved on but breaking up is hard for people and you have the man's son.

The man needs some kind of closure and he does not need to be dumped or discarded.

You need healthy boundaries.
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The father needs real access to visit his son and to communicate with you the custodial.

I would also say that you must not try making the new boyfriend into a new daddy because that is a nasty violation that many women do to their children's dad.

Healthy boundaries means having ways of efectively dealing with other people - and NOT shutting the man out.

The restraining order would make my life so much better however because my actions not only affect me they also affect a 15 year old boy who has been through quite enough. A restraining order is in my best interest but it isn’t the best interest for our son. Our son should have a relationship with his father and I believe he is strong enough to learn and deal with his father. Boundaries only work if the other person can/has the ability to respect them. Boundaries also only work if there is a consequence for crossing the boundary. When nothing matters to some one they really don’t care what the consequence is. I believe that the only way to live ones life is to do no harm and treat people with kind respect. I have changed the way I deal with him in many ways and the only thing I can do is talk to him in a professional manner in all our communications regarding our son and cut communication by sending a response If you are unable to keep this conversation on subject this conversation is over. And turn off email and will wake up to 7 to 10 more emails. It seems that you may be possibly right with the closer idea how do I give him closer? He has made it perfectly clear that he wants his family back and that is that. (I am so between a rock and hard place)

Thank you so much... Hugs

I disagree.. All states have "exchange points." He does not need to contact you or see you to see your son. He can work through an organization. In California it is "Faces", In Texas there is one called.
Angel House.
Talk to your attorney.