A "codependent" is loosely defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for other people's struggles.
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For years I have used sex as an approval method for my self-esteem. I lost my virginity at 13 to a friend. For years there after I would solicit him for sex to make myself feel good. As the years went by and he became more interseted in my firends I would get envious. I was never the smoking hot babe in my circle. Only the girl with the tits. BY age 10 I was already in a DD cup. at 16 when i had my reduction I had a JJJ. After my reduction I went into a HUGE depression and met my first husband and latched onf or dear life because then I didn't have to worry about never being alone. I worry that I am co-dependent. I have a boyfriend now who I feel ultimately loves me, but my codependency has me in a constant state of turmoil and distress over whether he is cheating or not. He has shown me no reason to believe otherwise. He admits to glancing at women inmy prescence but i wonder if i am just jealous. I am having scattered thougths and can't quite concentrate on anything. When I do think, I always think is "hunni" going to be ok with this? And then spend another hour deciding what I should do and feel quite dammed if I do, dammed if I don't. Just typing this and thinking about the situation makes my mouth dry, stomach turned and heart racing. sounds like codependency huh?
Posted on 09/20/08, 01:09 pm |
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It does sound very much like codependency.
Lack of healthy boundaries, low self esteem, the need for a real higher power, basing your decisions on what other people think, problems started while you were very young. I say you are very blessed to recognize the problems in your self and trying to do some thing about it at 21. I did not hit my bottom till 25 years old and another 5 years before I truly started recovery by creating my own healthy boundaries. It was not till I was around 40 years old when I first heard of codependency and I am glad I did finally get it. The first part of curing codependency is when we start making healthy boundaries. Here is a link to a gret "Boundary" book, link below; http://store.cloudtownsendstore.co... and another link; www.DocumentsSite.BraveHost.com That "Boundary" book is based from Christianity and it does go right to the point of creating healthy boundaries. Peace. 
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