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HELL NO! to the engagement thing. If you think he is a jerk now, wait until you marry him. Why would you bother with someone who treats you as well as your family so badly? He is abusing you physically. Stay away from this trash if not for you do it for your unborn child. I know this sounds harsh but its no longer about just you. Its you and your baby. Be strong and kick him to the curb. Throw him out.

Okay I know you are only 17 and I'm impressed that you are becoming more self aware. AWESOME! Listen to that deep voice inside you (not the one in your head...ego). If you are listening to the right one which I know is there because you are on this site, you know exactly what to do. As hard as it is, you have to cut ties with this trash before he really hurts you and your baby.

I hope you take care of yourself...mind, body and spirit. Big HUG to you

thanks thats made alot of sense hugs back xx

be good to yourself and your child , when your interested in someone ask yourself is this someone i would want my child to spend a weekend with ,there are good men out there,but first you need to take care of that baby ,if the daddy is addicted ,lying and stealing goes hand in hand , say no now ,and move forward beacause the deeper you get the harder it is to get out...blessings....mebeefree

DItto on stefanie68's comments: HELL NO on the engagement thing!! He's been abusive to you before, he'll prob. do it again, maybe even to the child.
And yes, please put that trash out on the curb where it belongs.

Repeat. ... HELL NO.. of course he wants to get engaged. He wants someone to take care of him and someone to abuse and blame his problems on... NO WAY... In fact, I'd tell him, if he every comes near you again, you are calling the police. It might be a good idea to call them anyway and put it on record of his domestic violence. I am so proud of you.... you do not want anyone like this in you and your baby's life. yo u are young and it will be hard, but you find someone who is right for you.
God Bless You!

i finally had the courage to DUMP him he is no longer living with me! but i have a new issue should i let him be there at the birth? plz let me no.

Well I might get some scorn for this one,

but I say yes, yes, YES - definately do let the baby's father be there at the birth.

I would make that decision further along in your pregnancy. If he earns that right, remember this man hit you while pregnant and just because he planted the seed does not give him the right, then you can make a more informed decision when the time comes. Don't tell him you are monitoring his behavior because he will modify it. I'm proud of you for maintaining your ground. Good for you and your baby.

I totally agree with the popular advice of ''HELL NO!'' to the engagement...that so makes sense..
For the birth of the baby...I agree with Booky about letting the father be part of the child birth..but I also believe you should have your family around..you mentionned ''living at your parents house''. Do you have a good relationship with them .Can you count on their support at the delivery time..(if not your parents, maybe an aunt or sister..)It might make his presence around you more controllable if others are around. I wish you good health to you and your baby..take good care..*HUG*HUG*

I also agree with everyone else "HELL NO" You take care of yourself & that baby.