Circumcision Support Group

I know this is a dumb question, but it's getting really close to my operation date and I still don't know the answer to this. Please somebody give me a quick and simple answer...

Thanx.

I never heard of that happening , my cousin got his done at 25 , no problems , he's got a high sex drive, another friend had it done at 50 yrs old, he can't get an erection anymore since the surgery , it broke his dingy

Whew, I can't believe I'm writing about this! Circumcision is such a personal subject, and writing about it is admittedly awkward. Nonetheless, I am a staunch advocate of circumcision, and how I became that way is a story worth telling.

Unlike most boys born in the 1950s, my parents chose -- for whatever reason -- not to have me routinely circumcised at birth. It bears note that my foreskin never caused me any physical problems, but it was certainly the source of some very real emotional ones. Being an uncut kid in a circumcised world made me the subject of some very cruel locker room teasing when I entered school. More to the point, I found my foreskin a source of embarrassment once I became sexually active. Most of my partners had never seen an intact penis before, and although they never really commented on it, I know that extra hood of skin made them uneasy.

On more than one occasion I casually inquired about the possibility of having my bothersome foreskin snipped away, but every physician I consulted declined to perform an elective circumcision, declaring the procedure medically unnecessary and, thus, not covered by health insurance. Eventually, I became resigned to the fact that my penis was just physically different, and that's the way it was always going to be.

It wasn't until I was 52 years old that I really made a concerted effort to find a urologist willing to perform an elective circ. My wife and I were going through a rough patch during which she became largely disinterested in sexual intimacy. After some frank discussions, she confided that my uncut state was a part of the problem. Aesthetics aside, she complained that I tended to orgasm too quickly, leaving her sexually frustrated and unfulfilled. She openly wondered -- as did I -- if my being circumcised might result in better "staying power." I read extensively on the subject, and, to my amazement, found that some men circ'ed as adults do, in fact, report significantly improved ejaculatory control.

After a bit of shopping, we found a sympathetic urologist who agreed to perform the surgery, even if it wasn't medically indicated. Now, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't attached to my foreskin, and a bit apprehensive at the prospect of parting with it once and for all. I was very mindful of the fact that circumcision is irreversible, and that sex might not be as pleasurable afterward. My fears were fueled by accounts of men circ'ed in later life who complained bitterly of lost sensitivity and even erectile dysfunction. Nonetheless, I resolved to have the operation in hopes that the benefits would outweigh the risks.

The surgery was done in the doctor's office under a local anaesthetic. Even from the standpoint of a wuss, the procedure was a piece of cake. Aside from the sting of numbing injections around the base of my penis, there was no discomfort to speak of. The doc had me circ'ed sutured and merrily on my way in about an hour and a half. He circ'ed me fairly tight, leaving about an inch of pink mucosal tissue below the head of my penis. I was a bit swollen and bruised for several days, but the doctor assured that the healing process would be quick and that I could expect an aesthetically pleasing outcome.

Indeed, I healed completely in about four weeks, and everything turned out exactly as I'd hoped. Seven months post-op sex is more enjoyable than ever. With no foreskin to get in the way, my glans now experiences friction with the vaginal wall going both directions, both in and out -- something I'd never felt before. More importantly, I have significantly better staying power. Depending on the positions we use and how long it's been since we last had intercourse, I can generally prolong orgasm until I want to orgasm. Similarly, my wife finds my circumcised penis much more aesthetically pleasing, is open to a wider variety of sexual activities, and climaxes more regularly during intercourse.

The downsides? Well, in the process of removing my foreskin, the surgeon truncated my frenulum, the exquisitely sensitive bit of tissue on the underside of my penis. I sometimes lament the diminished sensation it provided, especially during oral sex. Also, because I was circumcised quite tightly, masturbation now requires the use of a lubricant . . but those things represent a small sacrifice for overall gains in appearance and sexual satisfaction.

--Regards
Kiernan B.