Circumcision Support Group

Whew, I can't believe I'm writing about this! Circumcision is such a personal subject, and writing about it is admittedly awkward. Nonetheless, I am a staunch advocate of circumcision, and how I became that way is a story worth telling, regardless of personal embarrassment.

Unlike most boys born in the 1950s, my parents chose -- for whatever reason -- not to have me routinely circumcised at birth. It bears note that my foreskin never caused me any physical problems, but it was certainly the source of some very real emotional ones. Being an uncut kid in a circumcised world made me the subject of some very cruel locker room teasing when I entered school. More to the point, I found my foreskin a source of embarrassment once I became sexually active. Most of my partners had never seen an intact penis before, and although they never really commented on it, I know that extra hood of skin made them uneasy.

On more than one occasion I casually inquired about the possibility of having my bothersome foreskin snipped away, but every physician I consulted declined to perform an elective circumcision, declaring the procedure medically unnecessary and, thus, not covered by health insurance. Eventually, I became resigned to the fact that my penis was just physically different, and that's the way it was always going to be.

It wasn't until I was 52 years old that I really made a concerted effort to find a urologist willing to perform an elective circ. My wife and I were going through a rough patch during which she became largely disinterested in sexual intimacy. After some frank discussions, she confided that my uncut state was a part of the problem. Aesthetics aside, she complained that I tended to orgasm too quickly, leaving her sexually frustrated and unfulfilled. She openly wondered -- as did I -- if my being circumcised might result in better "staying power." I read extensively on the subject, and, to my amazement, found that some men circ'ed as adults do, in fact, report significantly improved ejaculatory control.

After a bit of shopping, we found a sympathetic urologist who agreed to perform the surgery, even if it wasn't medically indicated. Now, I'd be lying if I said I wasn't attached to my foreskin, and a bit apprehensive at the prospect of parting with it once and for all. I was very mindful of the fact that circumcision is irreversible, and that sex might not be as pleasurable afterward. My fears were fueled by accounts of men circ'ed in later life who complained bitterly of lost sensitivity and even erectile dysfunction. Nonetheless, I resolved to have the operation in hopes that the benefits would outweigh the risks.

The surgery was done in the doctor's office under a local anaesthetic. Even from the standpoint of a wuss, the procedure was a piece of cake. Aside from the sting of numbing injections around the base of my penis, there was no discomfort to speak of. The doc had me circ'ed sutured and merrily on my way in about an hour and a half. He circ'ed me fairly tight, leaving about an inch of pink mucosal tissue below the head of my penis. I was a bit swollen and bruised for several days, but the doctor assured that the healing process would be quick and that I could expect an aesthetically pleasing outcome.

Indeed, I healed completely in about four weeks, and everything turned out exactly as I'd hoped. Seven months post-op sex is more enjoyable than ever. With no foreskin to get in the way, my glans now experiences friction with the vaginal wall going both directions, both in and out -- something I'd never felt before. More importantly, I have significantly better staying power. Depending on the positions we use and how long it's been since we last had intercourse, I can generally prolong orgasm until I want to orgasm. Similarly, my wife finds my circumcised penis much more aesthetically pleasing, is open to a wider variety of sexual activities, and climaxes more regularly during intercourse.

The downsides? Well, in the process of removing my foreskin, the surgeon truncated my frenulum, the exquisitely sensitive bit of tissue on the underside of my penis. I sometimes lament the diminished sensation it provided, especially during oral sex. Also, because I was circumcised quite tightly, masturbation now requires the use of a lubricant . . but those things represent a small sacrifice for overall gains in appearance and sexual satisfaction.

--Regards
Kiernan B.

I didn't have any problems other than not having enough stitches put in when I was circumcised. I had to go back to the Dr do to excessive bleeding. The Dr said he needed to put in another 4-5 stiches and I told him no-way. He could just tape it up. After it was healed I haven't had any pain but, have noticed the loss of any sensation that I used to have. I was clipped at 23 years old. Tom

Well yes always been circ from I was born and yip always that one part at frenelum a little bit more sensitive then normal

From the woman's point of view:
It’s not right, but I was told from early on that boys having foreskins were just nasty.
Most of the boys I grew up with were circumcised. I only remember hearing of a couple that were not, as girls do talk about everything and most thought it gross as well. All of the boys I dated or had sex with at least had been done as well so I never thought to much about it.
Then I met my current BF. His foreskin was intact and I of course thought it was gross at first but as I got to know him I got kinda used to it, but always ask him before we got busy is that thing clean?
I began holding it back during sex and that was a turn on to him. When I played with him it didn’t take me long to have it pulled back and he liked me to do that. I told him to leave it back and see how it felt. He said it would hurt after while. I ask if he had ever tried it and he said no. So after we had sex I said let me try something and I put 2 small peaces of first aid medical tape at the base of his penis to hold his skin back after 20 minutes or so he said it was beginning to bother him. I had some cream I used for burning and itching from time to time and put some on his area of his concern and he was good until about 4 am when He woke me to have sex. He really like the feeling of starting out with it back and it became a little game and he began keeping it back.
After a month of so it was staying back most all the time and he ask what I thought of him getting circumcised I said that's great but it's your decision I am not forcing it on you. He told when he was born his mom was going to have him done and had signed the consent form but his dad came in just before they got to him and said No Way. then they were going to do him at 2 but he got a fever. he wanted it done at 12 cause other friends were but the doctor wouldn't do it then as there was no problem. He thought about it from time to time later on but thought it would hurt to much. Now he wanted it for him self. I began calling doctors and went to several consultations with him until we found one he was comfortable with, that answered all the questions we had. He was circumcised a couple weeks later in an in and out surgery center. I got to be with him while it was being done. It took about 3 weeks to heal. He didn’t have any problems to speak of. It did hurt him when I checked the dressing as he would begin to get erect and he would yell at me to get out. lol It was done I guess what they call high and tight as his gland is exposed all the time and the skin is tight with almost no movement when he’s erect. His likes it but say he has lost some sensitivity. I don’t think he has talked to any one much besides me about it and hates it when I bring it up with other people. I think they did a great job on him it’s been just over a year and it looks like it was done at birth.
I have decided if I am blessed with any sons I’m going to let them make their own decisions about that as well.
Sense the time we were researching it for him gathering information on the methods and results, I developed an interest in it and I like hearing others concerns, experiences and fears.

Kat, my experience with it has been beyond awful :,( I just want to undo what they did to me. I just wish somebody would help me find a way....