Child Support & Custody Support Group

The fear of losing a child is the worst fear ever. What an ass for teasing you about something. That's psychological abuse. Mine threatened to take the kids and run if I filed for divorce. I made that known to my lawyer, to the school, to everyone. My lawyer helped me through it by telling me that yes, he can run. But even if he has partial custody, he will have a visitation schedule. If he doesn't return the children on your time, you can call the police and they will hunt him down. Taking kids out of state turns into a federal crime. It may take days to locate them, but they will. And at that time, he will lose all his rights to the children. I know that doesn't help your fears now, but know that you do have rights. Just earlier this month my stbx wouldn't return the children at my parenting time. Within 3 hours I was at his house with the police and they forced him to turn the kids over. If you have a Judge's signature on a court order for parenting time, the police will get involved.

my advice is to get a very clear court order....specifically stating what days he is allowed.example: 1st 3rd and 5th weekend of evey month. if it is eow who to say what weekend it starts. you can easily loose track and prooving it to the police on spure of the moment is damn near immposible because they like to stay as least involved as possible. having it spelled out he is not allowed to leave the state at anytime without court approving it may help. you can request anything in a court order even if it is no brainer crap that is already the law....with my ex the last co we had i had so much no brainer crap added because he was so irresponsable (regarding warrants and drivers liscense)(he was not allowed to take her out of state until he had a dl.) the courts do not push a thing unless you make it an issue. bring up he mentioned it in the past and therefore you want to add things to the court order prventing it and just in case it does happen you can show it to the police. hell my ex tried finding me in contmept because i would not allow him to pick her up (he agreed at first) when he had an active arrest warrant....the courts really did not bat an eye at it but i was not found in contempt.

I know what you mean, I used to be afraid of the same thing, and my nightmare became very real. i am dealing with it, but the only difference is that i know where my 2 year old, but my husband has managed to buy off the people that i thought were my family and friends and he has managed to convince a judge that he is the better parent. mind you, my daughter was raised solely by me up until a few months ago. Until i ecided to give him a chance by marrying him, it was a pure disaster, he became abusive, i had him arrested, but he got those charrges dismissed almost immediately. I didn't even get a chance to tell my side of the story.
Needless to say, it feels like i am fighting a losing battle and i am at a loss.
i'm sorry about your nightmares, but at least thats all that they are. Protect your child and do whatever you think is right by them.

You're right. It's not a phobia. It's a reality. Child abduction is rampant, just look at the amber alerts.

My abusive ex, for instance, with a court order that states he is to inform me by e-mail with 7 days formal notice if and when he decides to take the children out of the Commonwealth of Massachusetts, I then learned from my daughter that he was sending her to Enfgland on her own, to meet a school friend and her family fr a week.

Then, on Memorial Weekend, when he had the girls, he left the 13 and 15 year old home alone for 48 hours and took the nine year old to Nantucket for the weekend. It takes a minimum of 6 hours to return home from Nantucket and if the fog rolls in, it's big trouble.

But, that's wat he does that i KNOW about. Imagine what I don't know.


Be very careful in this divorce custody trial. Even good things can be twisted and explode in your face. Take copious notes, have a witness with you at all times and document the "professionals" on the case who smell the gravy train of money and come running to help. Been there, done that.

Now, I'm going public on the man next door, my ex husband, soccer coach to the neighbors, friend to all that has sadistically placed his importance above all else.

Yes, he's got money. mine. But, I've still got my integrity and we'll see how he fares when the children are old enough to feel pimped out by his decisions. i believe that goodness wins over evil, but only time will show how his operation builds success.