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hi - i have been on this support board in other topic groups, so i am not new to the board, just this support area. my mom is a breast cancer survivor and now, just tonight, my husband and i found out that his mom has been diagnosed with breast cancer and is having surgery/chemo and radiation. i am wondering how i can help support my husband best thru this. we are facing other challenges as well; are newly married and i have a step daughter. so things are not boring in our household.
we did not find out which stage she was in and he has called his sister to find out additional information (he lives out of state from his family) so hopefully will hear more tomorrow. he has recently stopped smoking and i want to be sure that i am supporting him to the best of my ability. she (his mom) did not want to talk to my mom, who has already been thru this. i think she is taking it pretty hard and trying to be tough - and it is proving difficult for my husband to be out of state and deal with the stress of this. we are going to send her a care package - but i am wondering if anyone has any other ideas that might help or things that may have helped you all thru this i would , we would, greatly appreciate it. thanks. Posted on 07/13/08, 09:07 pm |
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Hi ~ Bless your heart for wanting to support your husband thru this, and who better person than you since you've been thru it yourself with your mom? I'm sure you'll know all the things he's worried about, the "what if's," and all the questions he'll have. Luckily we live in a time now where the survival rate is SO much better than it used to be!
His Mom might be like I was when I was diagnosed earlier this year. People may have thought I was being "tough" but I was doing it for ME. I was driving myself to treatments, doctors' appts., etc., instead of having someone take me ~ unless of course I was having surgery. Even when I was worn to a frazzle, I wasn't going to give in ~ I didn't want to let *it* get me. Perhaps that's how his Mom feels too. She might just need her space, to deal with it. I know I needed mine. Both you and your husband need EACH OTHER right now. Since you're newly married, you have some big challenges right off the bat. Lean on each other ~ get to know each other while you're trying get thru these rocky times. Most of all be kind to yourselves and each other. Everything is just as it is supposed to be in God's world right now. God bless, and take care. Hugs, Lee 
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