Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just always remember how you felt, and it will be easy. Since no parent wants there child to go through any pain. Mine divorced when I was 8. It was quite the opposite though, I lived with mom and dad moved in with a lady with 2kids and he didnt really need me and my syblings anymore and me and my mom were always trying just to get him to love me. and my brother and 2 sisters. And our relationship today is i wont talk to him.

My parents divorced when I was 12. They were and are very amicable. We all still vacation together with their respective spouses. They never, ever put us in the middle. It is the kind of divorce my stbx and I decided we wanted to have for the sake of our son.

The only issue that was uncomfortable was sometimes Mom would talk about how Dad didn't sent her the child support payments on time. I think I would make sure that all financial issues are kept away from our son. I (I think both of us) try very hard to only speak well of the other parent. No kid wants to have to 'choose.'

My folks divorce when I was 4..never knew my dad until a year ago. My stbx folks never divorced..this will be her fourth (4) divorce and my second (2)..Hopefully my kids will do better in choosing a spouse than I did

Good for you. My dad divorced twice. I'm sure it made me the Runaway Bride I am today

j you are a smart and brave woman.

I still wish my parents would divorce. Sounds stranger I know but, my dad treats my mom like a huge fool and she treats herself like a fool. I could see that she would want her kids to have their father around but when the kids feel you should get a divorce, when is it better for the kids. A reason why I chose divorce was to prove to myself that I didn't have to live the life of my mother. My mothers a young 51 years old and has no clue as to who she is as a woman. She is who he allows her to be. I wanted better for myself and better for the children I one day hope to have.

well i grew up with both parents, i'm still screwed up, my dad beat my mom down emotionally like a dog. my mom had no self-esteem and no self confidence. my father was an excellent provider. i'd give it all back for love, gentle words and emotional support. they are both gone now, but i do love them dearly and i know they loved me, and did the best they could. so for those of you who choose to be kind to each other for your children and you jmcnulty for your decision about your birthday, i applaud you, you all are very wonderful people.

On my side, my parents were divorced when I was about 2. Both remarried. Mom got her second divorce when I was 12. she then got remarried and is still married. Dad got remarried, and got divorced about 8 years ago. He remarried and was widowed and is now dating again.

STBX's family is like this, her parents divorced when she was 3 or 4. Both remarried. her mom is still on marriage #2. Her dad went through divorce #2 about 10 years ago. He is remarried.

Both of my older sisters are either divorced or getting divorced.

Good for you JMcNulty, hold your ground.

My parents divorce when I was 7, it was a violent (as their marrigae was), child abducting (on my dads part, only a overnighter, because then he remembered why he was never home), and threatening dirvorce. My dad remarried shortly after and forgot who my brother and I were for 10 yrs, with the help of his new wife. Even though they lived 1 1/2 miles from us My mother had a series of men and did a ton of bad mouthing my dad to us kids. She remarried eventually, a man she dated and lived with for 4 yrs, and had it annuled after 3 months. I don't know you got me on that one. She then remarried a couple of years later to a very good man. As for my dad his second marriage ended 18yrs ago and he remarried shortly after that and it ended last year. Not a good family track record on my side.

Worked hard to fall into the trap, oh well guess I have things to learan still.

I have no idea....I wish I knew. My parents have been married for 41 years. No one in the family has ever been divorced,which is one of the main reasons I am here. I was raised to believe that marriage has ups and downs and that you always stay faithful and work together to straighten in out. Ironically enough my parents were so very grateful and happy to see me get out of my situation.

I think you did the right thing by confronting your dad and expressing your feelings. The children need to see all work together as we need to role model the correct and appropriate behaviors for them. Its a viscious cycle that will never end unless we put our foot down and change the behaviors. Bravo for stopping the cycle!!!!!