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It's probably your nerves. I think that your unconscious brings to light your fears, feelings, hopes, etc. in the form of dreams. I went through this right before stbx and I separated. I would dream that he was berating me or was angry at me once again. (This is how he was treating me in real life but it started showing up in my dreams - big clue I needed to get out!).

You've been traumatized and have very strong feelings about your marriage coming to an end. It's natural it would show up in your dreams. It should get better. Hugs.

I would have dreams where everything was alright....and then I would wake up and for a split second I wouldnt realize that I was in this current situation. And then BAM! It would hit me...and I would get sad.
I hope you start feeling better, cause those can get bad. Just stay strong and keep us informed here please.

I had nightmares during the first few months that we were separated, but none since. I hope it gets better for you soon. Hugs.

Yeah, I have all kinds of weird dreams, including some nightmares. Sometimes I wake myself up talking "to" STBX. I don't wake up crying so much anymore. You might want to talk to your doc about an anti-anxiety med for bedtime, because everything in life is better when you're sleeping well.

Also, I find that soothing music is really helpful in calming down during the night. I also keep a book of short devotions on change handy; that also helps me refocus.

One of the side effects to a medication i was on was nightmares. I had to stop taking it. Since I have..no more nightmares. The doctor said it was more than likely because I was prone to them as a child anyway.

YES!! I have dreams/nightmares too. The other night, I dreamed that I was visiting my family back east, and there was an earthquake in California that collapsed one of the major freeways and my husband was among the victims. he survived and when I spoke to him on the phone he mentioned that he'd be getting out in a few days. When I spoke to the doctor though, they didn't give him as good a prognosis. This is what made me realize that the problems in my marraige go really deep adn that I might be losing him. I'm really trying to get help before it's too late.

After my grandmother passed away, I had dreams where she kept dying over and over and no one tried to save her. Those were disturbing but they've stopped now.

I think dreams are just your brain's way of dealing with things that are going on in your life. Most of the time, they mean nothing. I'm sure there are lots of people who disagree with this statement but I really try not to get caught up in the underlying meaning of dreams. Otherwise I'd go insane.

Yeah, I get them too. Not very often, but almost always after I learn something really troubling re: stbx. It is usually preceeded by lack of appetite for an extended period.

I'm not worried abou t the future, its the past that is stalking me. (Albeit a past I had no clue what was happening)

Yes I get bad ones.

Cali123, YOUR dreams are just more than stomach acid, or past memories.

For many many years I had nightmares about my X (who was my husband at that time) having relations with other women. I'd physically fight him everytime. This was a common dream for me. Since I've left him and now divorced I have not had one of these dreams. I've had a few dreams about him but they were all peaceful. We were friends and I felt ok about everything. I know this was/is due to the feelings inside me. My inner soul knew what he was doing and it was killing me... Now I don't care! =) Whoo-Hooo!!!