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My "boyfriend" of 7 years, who I always called my husband just offically broke up with me the day that I got out of the psych hospital. I still alot of his stuff and we are "trying" to work out the best way for him to come and get it. Well, I don't want to see him drive away from me again like he did the first time. It broke my heart then and it would the second time. So he suggested that I leave a key under the matt and that he would come in and just get his stuff and leave, all of this while I was not there. Well, I don't want him in my home. We bought this place (I paid for the place - hell, I always paid for everything) but the plan was for the 2 of us to live here. He has never lived here therefore this is my place, my space and I don't want him in it. I don't want to smell his after shave in my home, etc. So my step-sister suggested that since it has ceased to rain in VA that we just put his furtinure and boxes of his shit out on the front lawn and leave with the house locked, etc. Telling him to call me on my cell phone when he is loaded and gone. I vaguely suggested this to him and he is calling me childish for this thinking. Any suggestions.
Now the other thing. Do I return the very few things that he ever gave me while we where together. When we where in Amsterdam I asked them to clean a pair of diamond earrings that he gave me for our first Xmas together. They told me that they barely passed as diamonds but I have continued to wear them mainly cause they go with everything but now I don't wear them. What about the stuffed animals that he's given me. I don't want to see them. Give them back or give them to Goodwill? and when we got back from Amsterdam where I bought myself a very expensive diamond engagement ring I bought us wedding bands from a store which was jewerly in the front and a gun store in the back. To him it was heaven on earth. do I just give him the wedding bands since they are from the town that he has returned to and still knows the owner who might give the same amount for them or do I just pawn them for $30 bucks. Any suggestions folks? Posted on 08/18/07, 07:08 pm |
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When my ex left she left a lot of stuff behind. So for several months I'd box it up and set it on the porch for her to come and get when I'm not here. I still find things and leave them for her to pick up OUTSIDE when I'm gone. The only thing I have left that she gave me is our 3 boys. She hadn't bought me anything in years. So that's how I do it. 
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i dont think your being childish at all, protect yourself from more pain. tough if he doesnt like it. give away the stuff to less fortunate people. pawn the wedding bands. i paid for everything too. similar story.
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i meant give away the gifts, not his stuff, you could get in trouble for that. but i think a scheduled pick up time outside is just fine.
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Thank you guys for the replys....it makes me feel alot better about the fact that I'm not being "childish" after all. I'm also going to put up NO Trespassing signs on my property. He's on probation for smashing someone's windshield on the highway when he threw a soda can at them cause he didn't like there way of driving so if he causes problems I can call the cops due to the trespassing thing. I honestly hope that it doesn't come to that, but just to be safe. I loved this man for so long but now I just can't bear the thought of seeing him again. And like someone said, at least I'm not making a bonfire of it all. Thanks again for the support and hugs to you all!
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STbx has been over and picked up some stuff at first I let stbx to get what ever. Then I started leaving stuff by the front door so stbx could just take it and go. The last time I put most of the stuff out side and I don't let stbx in. We are getting to the division of assets and her sister has offered to be some what of a mediator and come and get some more of her stuff. Sister was supposed to call me this weekend but so far nothing. Maybe he can get some one you can stand to come pick up his stuff.
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Wick, I kinda knew that this break up was coming for awhile and so I asked his best friend who he's now living with (his poor friend is married and has a 4 yr old and a 5 yr old) and they live in a very small house, but anyway the BF said that he would come and help me move the stuff in my ex's truck. Will the ex went crazy about how it isn't his friends responbility etc and how childish I was acting, etc so he won't let anyone else come and get the stuff.
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