I'm a stay at home mom of 2 kids, 6 and 4. I have been married for 7 years. It has been a fairly rocky marriage but it seemed to mature over time. He was not much help around the house or with the kids. I accepted that and lowered my expectations of this, and found we fought much less. I caught him
dating a girl and calling some girls throughout the years. I always addressed it with him immediately and he said he wouldn't do that anymore. We are currently seperated for about 3 weeks. The reason I separated was he wasn't respecting me and he wasn't happy about me. I then recently found out he currently has a girlfriend for several months. I checked his phone bills and traced them. I think he really cares about her and is happy we are seperated.
Odd but true, after being seperated from him, and
reading Dr. Laura's latest book, I realized his needs from me have never been met. I could have been more affectionate, and appreciative. He was a good provider allowing me to stay at home with my kids in a very nice home. So I want him back now and think I can change to better meet his needs. He says he would consider a reconcilation if I sign a seperation agreement (with out
dating it yet). He wants to have all of our property figured out so if it doesn't work we can bale with less emotion. This has been very hard for me to do. It is counter productive to reconciling. What should I do?? I'm trying to work on an agreement but I don't know if I trust his motives. He is still separated from me and seeing this girl and possibly others. He says if we reconcile he will give 100% for 5-6 weeks to see if it will work. ANy thoughts??
Posted on 02/18/07, 12:02 am
DUMP HIM! Yes, maybe there were things we all could have done "to be a better wife." But they should have been better "adults." An adult is able to articulate what the problem is and try to resolve it instead of stepping out of the marriage. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Cheating goes hand in hand with lying! Don't trust his motives. If he wanted to work it out, his actions would have shown it. Don't sign a separation agreement...get yourself an attorney! 
