Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Lisa, I know how you feel. I'm not getting better either, not yet, but you have to stay positive. I recently posted a discussion about feeling suicidal last night, and gots lots of positive feedback. It's not the answer. I don't know when it gets better, but you have to believe it does. Read mine. It's a few lines under yours. You're not alone. HUG!

Hi Lisa.

The time it can take to heal depends person to person. We are all different in how long it takes to heal. I am only fairly new t this unwanted game - 2 1/2 months and it still hurts like hell and I expect it will for some time yet. Hold on in there it will get better for you.

{{{{{Lisa}}}}}

Lisa- I have been where you are. I still am struggling with alot, like you. I have been around here on this support group for a long time, I am just having to deal with a new user name, that is mtmmom, rather than, kimasw. Suicide is not going to solve anything. Please talk to us. So many of us share the same struggles. Believe me. That is why we are here. there is so much support for you here. -Kim

I understand your question, Lisa. I have been there before. But you will not always feel this way. Really. You will enjoy things again in time. Hugs to you.

Hey Lisa !

I know we're all different in the way we deal with things but, in my case, when my wife left me in April this year, I felt exactly the same as you. But I thought, in our situation, you can take one of two paths - the path of despair or the positive path.

With me I just looked in the mirror one day and said to myself " ya know what, I deserve better than this and I know there are people out there who will treat me better"

Since that day I have gone from strength to strength - I looked at all the things I'd always wanted to do like get to the gym, picking up my guitar again and writing my long forgotten novel.These things were hard to do at first ( especially the gym) but all of a sudden I started to enjoy them and enjoy life again.

This site is a great help as well because I still get the odd day when the past catches up with me - but I have made some good friends here and I only have to hit the chat button with one of them and my spirits are lifted.

So don't despair Lisa.....you will be happy again....It doesn't seem like it at the moment but that will change believe me!

Anyway take care....keep your chin up and smile...the world loves a great smile and I bet you have one.

Take care and feel free to chat anytime

Tony UK - one of the good guys

i have always felt that time is the friend and enemy in this situation. for the longest time, it's the enemy and then it becomes the friend. i look back where i was a year ago, hence all the time that has passed has brought me to where i am today. it's a great life because i'm making it that way. perhaps yours might take a little longer. please don't give up. please keep coming and posting and letting us support and encourage you. life is so very precious. there are so many things to be grateful for.

You need to forget being a survivor and start being a thriver. You CAN do this. Be the strong person I know you can be. It will all be fine.

((((HUGS))))

Thank you all for your kind words and encouragement. they have helped more than you will ever know. I have not cried today!

Talk about karma, I was just thinking the exact same words, "What's the Point?" I logged on to DS and your thread was the very first one! How wierd is that? I figure if we don't get the point than we must get the shaft. Well Lisa, Just like taking a trip we need to appreciate the journey not just the destination. Often times it is a long, hard, bumpy road we travel. Lots of obstacles and downfalls. We must learn from each and everyone of them. If we just drove a long straigt, flat road, life might be easy but also quite boring. I wish you more exciting and fulfilling adventures in your travels. If something is really cool, let us know so we can enjoy them too.