Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Darrin, you know that I think you are a great person and I respect you but I really think you have to stop having a pitty party hun. I dont know how many times I can stress to you that YOU HAVE TO LOVE YOURSELF BEFORE SOMEONE ELSE CAN. Please think about that

sorry this isn't a pity party i'm just trying to figure out what is it i need to do so i don't keep picking the wrong person if that makes sense.

Jen is soooooo right darrinp!!! So right. And she knows what she is talking about, believe me. I do too! I am learning to love myself for who i am first and it won't hurt me as much if others don't after. You trully have to learn to see how unique you are. I always thought that the love of a man would make me happy. I am realizing that it doesn't work that way....

I have my low times (like today) and i also need support. We all do. Reach out to us. But try to believe that everything starts from within. It's not easy.... But it's what we have to do.

let me try to say it this way "how do i know someone loves me for who i am"

trust... faith in the person your with...

all love should be unconditional.. and in a perfect world it would be..

all anyone of us can do.. (as the other two brilliant ladies already said) Is love ourselves..

My best friend keeps telling me.. 'You better learn to treat yourself.. get the nails done, get the hair done etc.. because no man will ever be as good to you as you should be to yourself".. words to live by I think.

Stop worrying about love/ future loves, start worrying about and taking care of you.. no woman will or should take better care of you than you could.

Well, that's not the same question at all... How do we know? Ummmmmm... i would say that the person stays. This person is willing to work through the harder times in the relationship because she sees that you are worth it. This person loves you with your flaws. You can totally be yourself with her and she is with you.

I think that all we can do in life is be honnest with ourselves and others. If we do things with good intentions and it doesn't turn out the way we hoped, we can at least know that we were authentic.

Autheticity is the most important thing for me in life. I am learning to be myself, to speak my mind and respect my feelings. It's not always easy because i am terrified of rejection but you know what? I am sick of thinking that i have to do things for others to love me.

You can do this!!!

DARRIN -- CHEER THE HELL UP, DUDE! At least SOME of the time! Good grief, you can't just continually wallow in it, even I (sad sack of the century) can have a good moment now and then! There are those who have WAY more problems than you do (sorry, just a reality check here, unpopular tho it may be) and, altho everyone has a really bad day sometimes, or lots of times, you seem to have all bad days) -- find something to CHEER THE HELL UP before this crap kills you or alienates everyone! SORRY! Save your own life, dude, I cannot do it for you from where I sit!

Anne... u r right on. Darrin... dude, you need some professional help.... START thinking happy.... make some GOOD SUMMER MEMORIES... see the good in life, in anything! If you can't, GET SOME HELP! Seriously, you are wallowing in misery - and YOU need to get some help. You have a lot of good qualities.... start building on them!

darin, we love you..lord if you havent figured that out yet..
but ya mean in real life..hon you are a treasure (and might i add with a wickedly good sense of humor)waiting to be found by the right person..god has his plan for you..just be patient

are you giving them the real you? it matters