Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Well i think if mine asked me back I would just to say I atleast tried to make things work.

No 22 years of hell mixed with infidelity, drug use and lots of other stuff is more than enough to make me a saint.

Boggy ground Wendy.
If you do decide to take him back or date or whatever..
couples counseling is a must. The issues that drove you apart are still there and if they are not resolved it will only hurt you more.

Good luck, whatever you decide.

I myself would rather walk over hot coals, butt naked in a lightening storm than even think about this option BUT
I have a yoga student who divorced her husband becuse he was an alcholic, married again and divorced another man, then years later she ended up re marrying her first EX, after he had been sober for 5 years. They have been together now for 10+ years and are very happy. So I guess it happens...

I think it would depend on why you got divorced to begin with, and if you are going back with rose colored glasses on or a clear vision.

i might date my stbx, but there will be some conditions, no staying overnight at my house, you can't leave any of your shit here,no moving in, the list is endless, with so many conditions i don't see it happening.

I agree with yoga mom. I know a lot of us want to believe they changed, but most of the time they didn't. Counseling is a must to find out both parties breakdown in the marriage. I hope things work out for you.

My mother has commented to me that she knows some younger couples who have divorced and later gotten remarried...some are still together and some not. I would wonder if I could ever trust him again after all he has put me through with the OW and how he left. I also wonder if it wouldn't be harmful to my son to take the chance of letting the STBX back in only to have it not work. But it ain't like the STBX has asked to come back so I guess I don't have to worry.

I did it... it lasted 3 years... now we are divorced, for real!

Can I say that I'm sorry? Yes and no... yes, because I would have been so much further along in my life had I not gone back... no, because I never have to second guess myself that what could-a would-a should-a..... I know how it turned out.

IF my ex ever asked me to come back; I would show him my heel of my foot....what's done is done. I won't go back. People don't change. EVER. Be cautious......if it works then that's good.....but the second time around is just that a second time around.

Nope. My stbx and I filed for divorce last year. After a few months I took him back. ( months later, here we are. Another divorce.