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I just sent an email to x...would like opinions...
DUMBAZZ (I used his name), You still have not paid your portion of these medical bills to me. I paid the remainder of this over a month ago and actually paid my portion (and part of yours) in 2007. I've been more than fair about this...even to the point of informing you about the payment being reduced by the doctor's office and refiguring each of our portions accordingly. Whether you want to admit it or not, our children are expensive...and I'm keeping them to as close to their former lifestyle as I possibly can (as you know that I am). I know deep down somewhere you love them and want them to not suffer or have to do without. I am making sure they have computer (and gaming) equipment up-to-date, sports camps and everything that goes with it, 4-wheeler, cell phones, can go out with their friends, and have the same clothes, etc. that they've always had and that their friends have (besides their daily needs met like food, shelter, etc). This all fits into their lifestyle...the one that they had and I KNOW that you want that for them. Sure, you not paying me in a timely manner hurts me but it also hurts them (and I am also sure that you would never intend that...you just aren't thinking about it like that). My attorney told me that I could send this to him and he'd send it to your attorney and ask for attorney fees from you but that just seems so pointless...just pay it and make it easier on BOTH of us. If I don't have it by the end of June, I'll be forced to turn it over to my attorney. Remember that the kids still have their cell phones and both use them. They have unlimited texting. They've been pretty busy this summer...N hangs out with A (my bf's nephew but I just said his name in the email) a lot. He's a good kid and has kinda become an older brother to both C and N (C calls him the older brother she never wanted...while laughing). C is very social and spends a lot of time either with her friends or talking to them. C starts soccer again pretty soon for the high school. The kids and I have moved. Our new address is X. Thanks! ashew Basically, I just want him to pay what he owes. I, personally, don't care if he has anything to do with the kids (drugs and alcohol lifestyle) but I want him to have that opportunity if he wants it...besides I know that it would be good for them to at least think their dad could POSSIBLY care. I love my attorney but I am just sick of having to deal with everything through the courts because he's too big of a baby to just put on his big boy pants and deal with me and take his responsibilities seriously. Posted on 06/18/08, 11:06 am |
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good luck! 
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well done!! I really like that you took the time to update him on the kids. I hope your saving these e mails so that if your conduct is ever called into question by your kids, you will have this to show them.
I applaud you for putting your children first. So often, in my work, I see kids that are put in the middle and used as pawns. It is devestating what it does to them.
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I may use some of your lines re: maintaining a certain lifestyle for my children and also him not wanting to hurt them...(yeah, right, he's the one that cheated on us). Do you mind if I do?
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Well done ashew! As usual..handling it with style and grace! :) I hope he steps up and pays that money! Good luck girl!
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Of course I don't mind. :-) I tried to be as "nice and understanding" as I could while at the same time letting him know that I mean business.
The kids DESERVE to live the lifestyle that BOTH of us can afford. If he can afford to buy elaborate things for himself, he should be helping to buy elaborate things for his kids. He wants to keep his lifestyle but write off the kids because they live with me. He shouldn't think like this. I do not maintain my own lifestyle using support he sends for them (and not paying me for medical expenses and other expenses cuts into that support because the house, water, electric, etc have to be paid FIRST). AND he seems to think that only HE provides support to them. I'm expected to provide a certain portion of their support (and I do) BESIDES anything extra that comes along.
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Yeah Richard pays me $650/month alimony. Well... that doesn't begin to cover the car he HAD to buy me one week before I found out he was cheating (that he conveniently put in my name) which is $440/month and the car that he bought for his daughter for graduation (which he conveniently put in my name) which is $280/month. And then I have gas and electric, mortgage, telephone, cable, gas, food, the list goes on and on. All I want him to understand is that I am suffering financially so that he could have his piece of ass.
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well it's a great effort to try to make things easier on everyone, hope it works. whatever happens, your kids know you love them and will always be there for them. and sadly, their father will never know unless he becomes clean and sober. keep being the great mom that you are. life has truly good things in store for all of us.
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