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I am very new here and I am looking for help. I got married very young and had 2 kids right away at 18 years old. I was married for 14 years and my wife and I struggled every year to provide a good home for our kids but we did it. Our marrage was centered on the kids 100%. As the kids got older it felt like there was less and less to our marrage. Last year I dont really know what happened to me. I decided I wanted "me" time and ended up telling my wife I wanted a divorce. I was so stubborn and selfish. She begged me not to do it but my mind was made up. I was so sure it was the right thing to do because I wanted to do my own thing. Fast forward a year and I hate myself for what I did. I am struggling every day to cope with the fact that I gave up a great family and a loving wife. Our marrage wasnt perfect but I see now that it was much better that I thought it was at the time.
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Reply #11 - 05/19/08  10:17am
" confused please please please dont waste another minute wondering, perhaps she still wants to be with you. I took my H back the first time he left me and can tell you it is possible to feel just as much love and affection for someone dispite pain they have caused. In my case sadly things didnt work out but that was entirely due to the kind of person my H is (numerous affairs and abusive behaviour)our second split had nothing to do with issues caused by the first.

Life is too short not to go after what you know in your heart you desire "
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Reply #12 - 05/19/08  10:23am
" I tried to open the door to the possibility of a reconcilliation this weekend. We both agreed that if we could take back and erase the last year we would. I asked her if there was any part of her that would want to try to fix things if we could. I think we are going to try to just be friendly to each other for now which is a huge step forward. I still need to work on figuring out what happened to me last year to make me do what i did. I have a hard time accepting that it was just "temporary insanity". If we do work on getting things back I need to make darn sure I never go off the deep end again. I cant imagine that i would knowing how horrible I feel about it now but like I said I still dont understand what happened to me. "
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