Breakups & Divorce Support Group

There will never be any relationship with my cheating X wife so long as she feels no shame, no remorse for what she put me and my girls through. Now she is only interested in herself but I honestly expect that to change down the road. Until then she has her own life and I want no part of it.

I think alot of those people are into "instant gratification" and not much else.. they dont "think"... they follow their hormones and rely upon alcohol induced brains to make decisions.... so they ever have moments.. .maybe... but we might never know...

Well, I don't feel like it was his or her responsibility to keep my home unwrecked. If it hadn't have been them it would have been someone else willing - it was the ex who cheated on me - not the one they cheated with.

In va you can sue for emotional abandonment one way to get back at the homewrecker but no they feel no shame.When i called the guy out to leave my wife alone it only made him that more into her must of worked he can have her

I can only hope that 'they BOTH get what's coming to them'.
Being 3,500 miles away from close family is really taking it's toll.
The only thing keeping me going right now is the thought that he will feel 1 tenth of the pain he caused me. It hurts so bad I could hardly breathe.

I don't think they fill shame but I know most don't trust each other . They can't trust the person they took cause that person cheated and the cheater knows how unethical the person is they cheated with is . So no happy ever after for them.

Mine supposedly was told he was in a divorce. Dont know if this is true but few months later I called her a left az message telling her she was screwing a married man with 2 kids who lives in an RV and etc... Dont think they talk any more as he hasnt yelled at me for calling her..

I don't think they feel any shame at the time the affair is occurring. In fact, the forbiden aspect of the relation is probably what fuels the affair. In the long run it will taint their perception of themselves. Personally I wouldn't want to be responsible for the failure of a marriage, no matter what the man says about his marriage and wife. Besides who wants to be with someone who is deceiving his family. It says something about him, something not really positive.
People who cheat believe they are entitled to whatever they are doing or think they want. I got that from my own story.

Guess it depends on the situation, there are some ow/om out there who don't know they're the ow/om, being lied to as much as the husband/wife being cheated on.

One of my friends started dating a great guy, they were doing well, and after a couple of months she found out he was married, and she definitely felt shame (and broke it off straight away).

The ow/om who knowingly pursue married people, I would guess not.

no-i don't think they care--otherwise they wouldn't do it..it is not like they don't know....