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Reply #1 -
05/09/08
7:42am
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It is the same situation with my husband and I. I didn't realize I was driving him away. I can't make him want to be with me any longer so I am trying to learn from my mistakes. I know God does have a plan for me and maybe this was a way for Him to open my eyes. I will keep you in my prayers. 
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Reply #2 -
05/09/08
8:10am
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Don't blame yourself! Learn - but don't blame yourself.
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Reply #3 -
05/09/08
8:25am
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Can I hear the sound of a toilet flushing here? I can certainly hear the sound of something swallowing shit, and if it aint a toilet, it must be you.
This whole post mate...all we hear is how she thinks you are at fault, and how you accept her assignment of blame..! Is she taking ANY responsibility for HER part in making this relationship fail....??
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Reply #4 -
05/09/08
8:29am
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It takes 2 my friend give it some times once you look past the good times you will see things she may be at fault about
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Reply #5 -
05/09/08
8:31am
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Go slow with her and see if she can recognize your willingness to accept some blame for the break up and the readiness to start anew.
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Reply #6 -
05/09/08
8:36am
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Maybe there is hope if you are patient. If she was partly to blame too you need to make this clear to her as tactfully as you can. If you are to resurect the relationship, honesty will be required. I wish you all the best, it would be nice to hear a happy ending
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Reply #7 -
05/09/08
9:03am
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It sounds like some of the things my STBX said to people and then my children found out about the OW.
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Reply #8 -
05/09/08
9:14am
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Take what is yours and throw the rest away. Nice of her to let herself off the hook of any responsibility.
What was she doing all this time? sitting back and watching the relationship fall apart "because of you" Unless you were, an abusive, alcoholic, addict...I'd say, that she shares in some of the responsibility.
Don't be to hard on yourself. What color did her soul turn?
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Reply #9 -
05/09/08
9:20am
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although i respect what you realized out of your conversation with your ex, but it takes 2 people to work a relationship, why didn't she come to you and tell you what she was seeing, perhaps you could have gotten help, changed jobs, anything to help. seems like she just let it happen and then walked when she had had enough. learn from your mistakes and grow to be a better person. as we all are here.
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Reply #10 -
05/09/08
9:28am
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James, I TOTALLY agree with what cmustard said......she has to share her part in it too. Don't take all the blame onto you.....that is just their selfish way of justifying everything. My ex pulled the same thing with me. He ripped me to shreds with everything I had done wrong in our marriage......but not ONCE did he take any responsibility for any of the shit he pulled (and there was alot!) I even apologized for my part in it, and he STILL couldn't humble himself enough to think he played any part. So, please stop beating yourself up. Own what your part was in it and let the rest go. If she was smart, she'd realize she had a hand in it too.
Good luck and I hope you find some peace.
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