Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Tell him to FO and die. What an idiot.

First and foremost do not let his intimidation bother you. Second if he sat around smoking pot while you worked have your lawyer require him to submit for a drug test. The drug abuse alone while you worked two jobs is mental abuse towards you. From what youve stated it looks like drug abuse counciling would not do much good, he has yet to admit he has a problem. Anything given as a gift does not have to be returned if you don't want to. Do your best to not become bitter just try to let it go and move forward. From what you've said you would do so much better alone than to help continue to raise this man/child. Consider it a lesson learned and do your best to seperate yourself from this person's lifestyle, until this person changes. The path he is on is a dead end road and he will take everyone around him down when the end comes. Its not worth your sanity, and you deserve someone when you in a relationship that is committed to working together and shows mutual respect for you. You are not his slave. As a few before me have stated a lawyers clock tends to run very slowly and law in general waits for due process. There is never an emergency to a lawyer and if you did reach him rest assured he will hit the timer and you will be paying for his opinion and consoling words. A suggestion: Go rent a good dvd then get the best icecream flavor of your choice and kick back and put it out of your mind, just let it go and dont answer your phone!

Thanks for all your replies. You guys are too funny about the saline implants :)
I think deep down I know that he doesn't have any grounds to support his stupid demands. But it doesn't stop me from freaking out about it.
By the way, the e-ring is not a family heirloom. I initially didn't even want a ring because I knew that he didn't have any money. I ended up buying myself a wedding band.
Hope my lawyer calls tomorrow.
Thanks again everyone!

Snoopy, thanks for the suggestion. I'll mention it to my lawyer (if he ever calls me back). Stbx also lied to me about his mental illnesses (bipolar and depression) so I'll use that too.
I'm trying so hard to just move on and get on with my life but I feel so stupid for marrying that loser and falling for his lies. ARGH!!

My stbx makes way more than I do and still tryied to get me to pay his lawyer fee.My lawyer told his lawyer absulutely NOT!!! HHHHmmmm
Sounds like our stbxs went to the same school of stupid

Does it matter that I made 4x what he did? I worked 2 jobs to pay the bills while he chose do nothing except doing "extras" in movies. Can he use that against me?

I'm going to try to get some sleep and not stress about this (yeah right!). Good night all!

My lawyer said that if my stbx doesnt get his own lawyer we could ASK the judge for him to pay half the attorney fees. As far as the engagement ring. I seriously doubt it. You fulfilled your engagement. Ive only heard of having to give it back if you dont get married. Hes probably stoned. Hahaha. What an idiot.

Thanks sassy! You're right. He is probably stoned out of his mind.
It's 5 am and I haven't slept at all. I wish I could be indifferent and not stress over that asshole.

He has grounds to ask...

You have grounds to tell him to go take a flying %$#@ at the moon