Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Today is my day to go back to that. I cant keep having to pick myself up from under his feet. He wears pretty heavy shoes and I am worn out!

Good Luck, It did help me so much before when I did it.

Thanks, Noreen...this is going to be hard.

Im dealing with the same thing today. I've been pretty persistant for 9 months, trying to fight for a chance for us...he was open to that at one time but pretty much has shut off. He told me today he wont even open my texts till after work..so, slowly he's cutting me out. Im tired of feeling stupid and vulnerable, like im the only one who believes our family is worth another shot. Im ready to quit too. If anything is to change at this point, it will have to be on their part by the sounds of it. I like your band aid analogy..good luck tangled and know there is someone else out there working on the same thing as your are right now...positive vibes coming your way!

i can attest to the fact it works. i've not had any contact in 8 months, i refused to keep being rejected by him. i'm worth so much more than that. everytime i did talk to him in the beginning, i was brought back to day 1. i just decided enough. he is not worth my time or any part of me or my life. he let go the best thing that ever happened to him.

Good Luck! It is for the best.

I just relapsed on Sat and I've been picking myself up every since then. I texted and called him and it's like it left my soul open again. I swear it's like a drug.

But I'm back at the no contact and I feel 100% better!

Wow, big step. Just something I noticed: the 'be friends' and 'hoping that she'll change her mind' are two different things. You need to give yourself the change to heal, and it is really hard for that to happen without going through the real emotional separation. Then maybe she will change her mind; she won't really have the emotional space to make that decision and you won't have the time to think about how her other relationship will affect you untl you take a step back. It is soooo painful, but it is the only way to really move forward, no matter which direction things take. (((HUG))) and best of luck.

needed to read this been fighting with myself to text him. I need NO CONTACT on my cell phone every time I start to write on. Thank God I was just thinking and haven't done anything stupid .....yet

go for it!..my no contact starts saturday..he doesnt know it but oh well..and started practicing today..hes called twice and i havent answered

No contact works for me!
I'm letting my lawyer do the talking. I'm done with his BS. It drags me back too far.

No contact really works! The only time I feel bad anymore is when I have to deal with him directly in court. I started my "no contact" 2 months after our separation and it was GREAT. I started healing at such a faster rate. It's been 14 months (8 months since the divorce was final though we are still awaiting decision on division of assets) since my separation and the funny thing is that I don't even feel like I was EVER with him...it seems like ages ago. Now I'm only healing from the fighting over finances...the love part is dead...and the no contact helped that.