Breakups & Divorce Support Group

I have no idea but I'm know it's not good.

He says that I am a lovely woman and the best thing that has ever happened to him but at the moment he doesn't want a relationship with anyone!
Great!

" I didn't give him enough sex, ran all of his friends away, tried to control his life, was constantly bitching...but he always came to me to do things for him because he didn't know how. "

Sheesh! I coulda written this! But, let me add that he sucked the life outta me. When I decided I could not take it any longer and left, he said "I promise to never say anything bad about you". Well DUH! I never did anything that would justify that in the first place. IDIOT!

He was telling people that I've stolen all of his money, am lazy, I'm keeping the kids from him, and want to cheat his family members in their nonexistent loans. Whatever though. His brother is the one that concerns me the most. I'm afraid after the judgment that his brother will do something physically violent to me. He's told other people (who aren't willing to come forward and tell me exactly what's being said) that he's going to do something from time to time.

I don't think my ex says anything bad about me. She readily admits to her affair and other moral shortcomings but blames it on her ADHD (self-diagnosed). None of it matters anymore and we've parted ways. The only reason I still have any contact is because I maintain a relationship with my ex-stepdaughter. I have zero legal rights to this contact so all parties involved obviously think that my influence is a good thing. Other than that I've always been a loyal person who tends to work too hard. With all that being said, I've given the married life a really good effort and will probably never put myself through it again.

I made him cheat and abuse drugs. I didn't give him enough sex so he had to find it anywhere he could. I'm a bitch and stuck up, I think I'm too good for him. I need to learn to forgive criminals, addicts, and cheats. I am the sexiest woman he has ever been with..well hell sometimes you can't argue with the truth.

That I threw our marriage away by kicking him out. I made him homeless. I took everything away from him.

The reailty is, he took advantage and abused our relationship for 9 years. That's what ended our marriage. I just put an end to my and my children's suffering.

Oh yeah...I forgot that his attorney said in court that we only had sex 2 or 3 times a year while questioning me...implying to the judge (who's deciding alimony...hahaha) that he cheated on me because I wasn't putting out. LOL. I looked at his attorney like he was an idiot and said that it was maybe 2 or 3 times a month but I should have laughed and pointed at him asking "would you want to have sex with THAT???"

Hey Ashew, did your atorney want to have sex with him too, just like he wants the drugho?

I'm sure my attorney would have been all over that one! Hahaha! Isn't it amazing???