Breakups & Divorce Support Group

she claims that i am controlling, but doesnt help around here. says that i am hard to talk to, but when i ask what is bothering her, idont know. says she doesnt feel like i love her, but i have still tried to provide for her. i dont get it.

And you still love him? What's up with that?

Before my diagnosis of eye condition: i am good man (real man), she was lucky, we were meant to be, we were soul mates, she was soo happy, and there was no one like me. She said these things the even just the week before.


Her story after diagnosis (4 days later): it is all my fault, i am not a real man, i am a hypocryte, i trapped her, she is not happy anymore, and doesn't want me. "Trying" to be my friend but is moving on and needs her space.

I am controlling, jealous of his friends, want to monopolise his time, dont love him or care about him, am being unfaithful, have no ambition in life, do nothing but watch TV (when I am not screwing around obviously)dont fit in with his friends and they dont like me.

Bearing in mind I have been emotionally abused by him the past twelve years to the point I felt totally worthless so I cant see how I am controlling, and these words were all said three months before I found out he was cheating on me when we married last July and continued to cheat until we separated in February (he is now openly having a relationship with the woman)

I have discovered most of the things he accused me of are true of himself!! like many of the cheating partners of DS'rs he is a very skilfull manipulator and a pathalogical liar!!

That I am the Mother of our 2 wonderful sons and he will always love me. :)

I think she'll say I'm a good person, a good father, a good husband, and a good friend, but we just had different ways of dealing with the difficulties in our lives. She also might say that I have a bad temper, but that I've been seeking help with that for a number of years now. And if she's feeling particularly guilty that day, she'll also say that she cheated on me.

she thought it was my job to fix all of her problems and to make her happy.

I didn't give him enough sex, ran all of his friends away, tried to control his life, was constantly bitching...but he always came to me to do things for him because he didn't know how.

My stbx tells me that I'm the best person he has ever known and that he knows in his head I am the better choice but his heart is with someone else right now. He says he doesn't want to hurt me anymore. He says he was the one that cheated and was wrong and that he is so sorry. Pretty much the truth.

i don't know and i don't care.