Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the ending of a marriage before the death of either spouse. The main causes of divorce in 2004, according to a recent study, were extra-marita...
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and not want to call his g/f "the tramp"? Give me a break.
He says that he had already decided to leave me before he ever met her and that should make it ok that he cheated on me with her? That she had nothing to do with the break-up of our marriage? OK, fine. I can accept that maybe he wanted to separate and he was already in that frame of mind when he met her. But we weren't separated yet. In my eyes, it's still cheating. He brought her into our home to have sex with her. CHEATING. Her answer to him when he told her he was married and still living with me, should have been "no". I wouldn't even consider meeting or having sex with a man that says he wants to leave his wife, or is separated, but still living at home. And ... he thinks because I cheated on my 1st husband at the end of our marriage, that I have no place to cast judgment on him or her. I've acknowledged what I did was wrong, I've shown remorse to my ex .... I wanted out of the marriage, but cheating wasn't ok to do (regardless of the fact that my ex was cheating on me too). How many justifications is my husband going to try to find to alleviate his own guilt?? She's a home-wrecking tramp, in my eyes. She cared nothing about the fact that he IS married. If she hadn't come into the picture, we might have separated amicably ... maybe even gone back to counseling. IF not, at least I wouldn't feel so much resentment and betrayal at him having a relationship with HER. And her parents know the whole story (she's 23) ... or most of it and they have no opinion on the matter? They say "let her learn the hard way." Geez .... I'd be thinking "I didn't raise you to be the other woman! You need to stay out of that couple's business." CAn you tell I'm just a tad bit angry???? Posted on 04/17/08, 05:04 pm |
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My husband tried to tell me the same BS- "I know you're upset about her, but it wasn't about her. I wasn't happy." BS. You should've dealt with whatever was "wrong" and maybe if you weren't distracted by her then you would've. It's just a way to try to justify the affair. It is STILL cheating. She is still a TRAMP and mine is still a WHORE! 
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I could have written this myself. My stbx said the exact same things and even said "I don't know how you can say that, she used to be your friend!" Key words? USED TO BE. What kind of "friend" does that?
Anyway, I still feel that my anger towards her was/is justified, despite all the excuses my stbx throws at me. The reality is that I believe that our divorce would have been much smoother if she was not in the picture. My kids would be much happier and better adjusted if she was not in the picture. He should have waited until we divorced before hopping into bed with another woman. Just my opinion, though.
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I couldn't agree more, with all of you. My asshole stbx said the same things. But in my eyes, it's still cheating. She knew he was married and had a family...that didn't stop her from getting involved with him, sleeping with him, or encouraging him to walk out on us. Her whole family knows what she's done. They know what kind of a man he is, and they don't seem to mind. None of them seem to mind the fact that he didn't support his children for over 4 months until it was taken from his paychecks automatically. But I look at it like this, SHE DESERVES WHAT SHE GETS!!! And she will get plenty. She has no idea yet just what kind of person she has involved herself with. My stbx didn't like that fact that I always refer to her as "THE WHORE", but I don't give a rats ass. Thats what she is, and thats how I will always refer to her!!
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Well I'm glad to know I'm not alone!
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Mine wanted me to be friends with her AFTER I found out about them! He said that was the only way it would save whatever relationship we had left.Fuck that.
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found my wife in bed with a guy she works with.Not even a week after she moved out.I moved out months before could not put up with the lies and staying out all night and cheating.I cant even look at her any more. She is getting kicked out of her place ha ha.I find it very hard to talk to her about anything.We have to beautiful boys /thats the only reason I talk to her is the kids.But I'm still pissed to this day about it. She can go fuck herself :/
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