Breakups & Divorce Support Group

I know what you mean, those thoughts creep up on me all the time, and I try to push them out of my mind. not so easy is it? then I think about something else.

ABSOLUTELY AGREE! I would rather stick hot pokers under my nails that think of the STEX dating!

Oh g/f do I hear you!
The OW is coming from Finland to visit the stbx from April 7-14. I booked a trip home to good ole Mom's to get the hell outta Dodge!
Now the sex and kissing was never that great BUT the cuddling and sleepy talking in bed, feet entwined all that stuff PISSES ME OFF!!!
I'm going to have to do the rubber-band-on-the-wrist thing and snap it every time a thought pops into mind!

OoooOooooh the rubberband thing is a good idea lol

I don't have to imagine my x with his whore, my son found her phone with all of the dirty text messages between the two of them on it. the graphic nature of these made it perfectly clear what they do. Yes it was lovley for a teenage boy to find. He doesn't have to wonder if his dad is a pig or the ow is a whore, the proof was right there for him to see.

Focus not on what they are going to do but what you will be able to do once healed.

Think of finding a new love and embracing them, or waking up with them and just knowing that you have someone who you care about and who cares for you.

My wife is with her Bf, living with him and are going on a trip tommorow. I know what they are going to do on the trip, but they are going to do it if I like it or not. I dont think I am as hurt from the thoughts as others are though, I want my wife/stbx to be happy so it takes some of the sting out of it. So thoughts on me and how good I will have it sooner or later.

mopri, I do think positively more often than not. I know that I will have all "that" again one day. Hell, if i really wanted to I could go out tomorrow and get "laid". I choose to wait..and I choose to share "that" with someone special. As soon as that happens, the thoughts of him will be gone :)

Nono I don't mean just going out for a quicky, I did mean once the healing is done and your ready to move forward with someone new.

As for the thoughts, just try to use the positive to push out the negative, hard to do on somethings.

I know what ya meant :P I was just sayin....lol..

In your shoes I understand your feeling.

In my shoes I had to laugh. Good luck to any woman with him. He pretends a lot and does his best to be a macho man, but bottom line he can't perform. He doesn't like women and would rather be with men.