Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Solong - You didn't waste it - You have your children and where you have been has gotten you where you are now.

Dont think of it as 21 years wasted, think of it of 21 years of research to make sure you and your next love make each other happier than you have ever been.

Your kids will know this too, nowadays kids are very smart, they will see who the good and the bad are.

Solong I thought it said 21 years on the toilet. I thought the thread was about the lady who spent 2 years on the toilet. I guess I'm sleepy. I'll go back and read your thread now.

I'm so sorry. I'll be joining you in the unhappy Easter. I hatre all holidays. They always seem to have an affair attached to them. Good luck!!

I AM NEW MEMBER AND I HAVE BEN MARRED 16 YEARS .WITH A INSEST WIFE THAT HAPPENED WHEN SHE WAS 12 / I HAVENT HAD REGULAR SEX FOR 16 YEARS , SHE TOLD ME NOT TO BE NAKED AROUND HER AND SHE WONT BOUND AS ONE FLESH .AND WONT CUDDLE WITH ME OR TALK SEXY TO ME . ONE TIME I BOUGHT HER A SEXY SLEEPING GOWN FOR VALANE TINE DAY ON OUR 16 ANAVISERY AND SHE TOLD ME SHE DIDN,T LIKE IT, I CANT EVEN TOUCH HER OR CONFRONT HER ON ANYTHING .SHE WONT GO TO THE BEACH WITH ME /OR ANY OUT SIDE STUFF/ AND DOESN,T WANT TO BUILD A FUTURE TOGTHER . SHE WONT EVEN TRY .I CO SIGNED FOR HER 3 TIMES AND DOESN,T THINK SHE HAS TO REPAY .AND MY CREDET IS NO GOOD . SHE SLEEPS ON THE COUCH SETING UP WITH A BAG OF CHIPS IN ONE HAND AND THE TV REMOTE IN THE OTHER . AND MY ENERGY IS ZAPED . SHE CANT MAKE LOVE OR ANY THING THAT REQUIRES A EFFERT . AND I WORK ON MY GOALS, DREAM,S ALL BY MYSELF / AND WOULDN,T EVEN GO WITH ME TO A BUSIENESS PARTY TRAING TO SHOW HER WHAT THE BUSIENESS COULD BE IN 2 YEARS AND ALL I WANTED HER TO DO WAS MEET SOME PEOPLE FROM THE BUSIENESS I AM WORKING ON FOR SHE COULD WALK AWAY FROM HER JOB / AND TRAVEL ALL OVER THE WOURLD HELPING PEOPLE GROW IN THE BUSIENESS. I HAVE BEN MARRIED SLEEPING IN A SINGLE BED BY MY SELF SO LONG ITS MY OFFICE MY ROOM . AND SHE SLAPED ME WHERE IT REALY HURT AND TOLD ME SHE WASN,T INTO ANY SEX .AND I HAVE BEN FAITHFULL AND PATIENT BUT IT REALY HAS CHIPPED ME AWAY . AND I CRY FOR HOUR,S AT A TIME . AND I WORK OUT ., I DO EVERYTHING BY MY SELF . AND I ASK MY SELF WHY DOESN,T MY WIFE LIKE ME OR DO ANYTHING . IS THERE SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME . I AM TRYING TO MAKE A CHANGE BUT I CANT LIVE LIKE THIS .I CAN BE ALONE . BUT REJECTED FOR 16 YEARS AND SHE NEVER SLEEPS NAKED . I JUST DONT KNOW WHY IT IS LIKE THIS . EVEN MY SON,S HAVE MORE FEELINGS FOR ME . MY TEN YEAR OLD SON CAME IN MY OFFICE AND SAID DAD WE NO YOU ARE LONEY BACK HER BY YOUR SELF BECAUSE MOM NEVER SLEEPS WITH YOU . AND MATTHEW SAID DAD HER IS MY FAVEROTE TEDDY BARE MABE HE WILL MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER , THAT,S WHAT I DO DAD WHEN I AM SAD AND LONLEY LIKE YOU DAD .THEN HE SAID DAD WE UNDERSTAND YOU BETTER THAN MOM AND MY BOYS KISSED ME ON MY FORHEAD AND SAID GOOD NIGHT DAD . THAT WAS TOUCHING AND THEN STARED CRYING AND FEEL ASLEEP A NOTHER NIGHT BY MY SELF IN MY BED . READ THE BIBLE PRAYED AND WENT TO SLEEP .PS SORRY THAT I AM PUTING A BURDEN ON EVERYONE HERE I JUST NEEDED TO LET SOME STRESS OUT.

it wasn't a waist, you did the right thing in life, it's just sad he couldn't appreciate it.

We know he is a jerk, at the end of the day, look at the two great gifts you got in return.

I really do appreciate the comments. I know that my children are really the only good things from this 21 years. I am still amzed that one person can continue to be so cruel to someone they once loved, to their children's mother.

Solong,

You did not waste anything. You have beautiful children and a lot of learning that you share with all of us. I like to call the time with the x as "other life" because I don't feel like it was real. This may be D-day for you but for your children this is still Easter. I hope for you that this can be that for you again. You have more to be thankful for on this holiday, he is not in your life anymore and you are not the one getting tested! Take care of yourself!!

N