Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Infidelity is such a betrayal of the trust between two people, but when it is compounded by another betrayal of a close friend, It is doubly hard to over come.. It is normal to hurt and to cry over the loss of what the two of you had together.. The dreams are so hard to deal with because they are what you desire and what really happened to you.. I think talking about it is the first step in the healing process.. I don't know how long it has been for you, but you will grieve the loss of what you had and again what she did to you..My heartfelt prayers go out to you for peaceful sleep, and comfort as you deal with the loss.. Hugs, Kimmee

wow, i can't relate to the cheating thing, or really even the children since i never had any with my ex, but i can understand your pain. i understand how it feels, especially being so young and, for me, feeling like a failure. but hang in there, my split was in november and i think just being positive about what you DO have is what helps the most. have you been reading anything? the book "lesson's for life" is a good one. it's short and it helps you understand yourself. it also teaches you how to do meditations to calm yourself down for those terrible mornings--since those always seem to be the worst for everyone. hope that helps! check it out!

I'm going through that too. My husband and a mutual friend has decided their love is too strong and have to be together.
I'm still head over heels in love with him and am having to cope with rethinking my life and what it is that I want.
I'm so sorry you're hurting- it really does suck.
I was scared to try sleeping pills but Neo Citran helps me sleep!!

You need time to heal, you need a support system of friends or family to occassionally vent to and to take your mind off your pain, you need activities in your life that keep you busy, I prefer to lift weights before bed and it did wonders, exhaustion helped me sleep better without any dreams/nightmares, and finally it's great to be somewhere like this because you see that others share your experiences and are willing to share with you, so that you can better cope with this.
Good luck my friend!

David, I feel for you. I went through much of what you are: the break-up, the dreams, the crying and still loving the other. I wish I could say you have the hard part behind, but you may not. You have to heal, try to focus on what is important.

thanks for the replies. they are very helpful. I'm planing on seeing a counsler sometime soon as talking seems to relieve my stresses. and to everyone going threw all the divorce and breakups hang in there. and i pray for a resolve for everyones hurting and heartaches.

It's such a complex range of emotions that we all go through. We would all love to move on... but we have to move through first.

I had those dreams and feelings and remember just felt like all I did was cry.

Everyday I spent forcing myself to do the things I had to. I had to continue to do that until I just don't have to force myself anymore.

While we wish it would just be over now and we dont feel that anymore, there is a process we need to go through in order to truly get over it.

So make yourself do those daily things until you just dont have to make yourself do them anymore.

I was right there with you, it takes time, I wish I could help you more, but I am trying to work through my divorce.