Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Maybe he really does care about you? There is always the chance that he is keeping the door open, however, if you are not physically close to each other, I would think that he cares for you, but wants someone closer that is more accessible! If you were ever friends, that bond is hard to break and like you said, the chance of you actually running into each other is nil.
I wish I could be more help and I know the pain is really bad. I am sorry you are going through this!
Hugs!

Thanks Giddy!! We seemed very compatible together and planned on marrying in a couple of years. I can't believe that someone would trade convenience for compatibility... We saw each other every month - taking turns flying back and forth. I know that he loved me. I just don't understand

I think sometimes they feel guilty so they call and say hi to see how we're feeling!

my gosh part of that is my story, but there is no contact what so ever, and i would keep it that way, whats the point. for me, it's best, that way i protect myself from rejection and more hurt. it's working and i'm allowing the greiving to take place. i'm doing ok. it's been 6 months

I am not the one who ended my relationship but it sounds to me like either he values ur freindship very very much or he is just tryin to keep u holding on enough to boost his ego ...
some people do this type of thing bc even though they may not be interested or have moved on from one person they still dont want the other person to let go of them completly...sometimes it due to lack of confidence, sometimes from only wanting thier ego to be pet...
i dont now him but u do...its up to u to decide that kind of a person he is...
dont look for the answer u want...look for the one that makes the most sense..
good luck honey
u need to give urself ime to move on.,. try to get urself to avoid contact woth him until ur a lil stronger...
u will never ever get over him if he is a constant in ur life....ur heart and head just wont be able to....
u need time and space...
u need that for u and ur sanity... it will be hard but if he cares he will understand and be there as a friend when u are ready

You probably don't want to hear this but the same exact thing has happened to me just not in Nov but Dec. Everytime he emails me it brings it all back and it makes me miss him again. Without fail, I will just start to think I've moved on and he emails again. The way I really got it to stop.....I blocked his email address so i wouldn't know he was emailing and then it forced him to talk to me rather than email if he really wanted to. In my situation, I think he liked thinking he had a "back up" of someone caring for him as he moved on doing his own thing. yeah....all set with that. I hope for you that you do whatever makes you happy- whether its being in contact with him or not. have you thought of dating someone else to see how it feels to not "be" with this particular guy? I wish you the best.

Being back-burnered is not good for the self-esteem. Neither is having to listen to his problems after he has dumped you. I would cut it off; there is no point in keeping in contact with an ex.

Ask him. He's not your bf anymore, do you have anything to lose by just flat out asking him? Worst thing that might happen is that he stops contacting you.
...sometimes the shortest distance between two points is a straight line.

Breakups are tough and emotional. Everyone reacts to breakups differently. Some are resentful, and some accept and move on. Some forget the good times in lieu of the bad. Some remember the bad but still cherish the good. Just because the relationship ended doesn't mean he can't care about how you are doing. It's not at all uncommon for people to still be friends after breakup.

Hey if you get an answer, let me know. I hate that fucking 'Hope you are doing well'. What the hell is that supposed to mean anyways? I got that on my birthday. That's it!