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I meant to say she will NOT say anything I want to hear so whats the point..

Email her and ask her to get counseling.

Otherwise she should speak to your attorney about any matters to do with the divorce.

If she is sincere she will do the work necessary and make a solid commitment and stop playing games with you. These games are too hurtful.

I hope this all works out for you. HUGS

I was leaving work today and feeling pretty good, then reality set in and I said to myself, "I'm not going home". I got to were I'm staying and broke down. Just then my sister brought me the phone and showed me that my STBX called 10 mins before I got there and she wanted me to call. I called her back and it was pure hell. All she wanted was to blame me for the hell shes in. (she's the one who ended the relationship). She tried to call my 1st x and my 1x hung up on her told her that her calls are not welcome. So, my STBX was yelling at me because everone is treating her bad. Bottom line for me is, not to return the calls as it can't be a good thing.

uncontested divorce. no kids or property to split so i filed and we are doing everything ourselves. So we have to talk until she signs. I just have to contol how often.

I already asked her to get counseling and to my knowledge she never did.

Seems like a phone call is not the best idea. Should i just text her?

Don't call it only starts all the pain all over again!
My thoughts are with you!
Hugs!

jerriean i LOVE your ICON!!!

so calling is out. I cant ignore her forever but I'll cross that bridge when I get to it.

E-mail or text, that way she can't hurt you verbally and you won't be able to hear the tone of her voice.

When you use lawyers they will write a no-contact order into the divorce. It's not just so the attys can make more money, it's because it is in the best interests of the people divorcing.
I hadn't seen my ex for more than 2 months and i was doing fine. But when I HAD to see him Tuesday it was overwhelming. I could not control it. Tears welled in my eyes- spilled down my face. I was in the courthouse and it was very embarassing. I had such a lump in my throat that I was afraid to say anything for fear of the sob that would come out. It was more painful to see him than I imagined. I still love him and he doesn't deserve my love. Stay away and don't talk to her unless you have to. Email?

I'll just text her. Wish it was easier to hate or dislke people that treated you like $#!t.....

jlkrjl, you are absolutely right. The contact for me was devastating. I know what tipote means thought, because until the agreement is signed off on you are at their mercy. I know I did what I could to placate until it was worked out.

He wanted a do it yourself, but I didn't trust him and got a lawyer. The lawyer contacted him about the paperwork and added that there should be no contact.

I told the STBX that I needed time and to please not contact me unless I contacted him first.

He still sends mail and email, but I ignore it. We have been separated 7 months and in a few days it should be final. The time without the contact was much easier. I told him to only contact me if he was interested in counseling and reconciling, but he is shacking up with the OW and just wants to be "friends."