Breakups & Divorce Support Group

I totally understand. My STBX husband has hardly seen is his kids while living in the same house with them for 5 years. Too busy with his own agenda of what his need are, like most of them like that. Love your kids through this. He is who he is. Accept it, so you don't hold onto anger and resentment, that ultimently your kids will carry. It's tough to be forced to be your absolute best you, that you've ever been before, because the other parent is at there absolute worst. Think of it as an opportunity to see what your really made of. You might suprise yourself!

Sorry you are having to go through this but I have to say it is pretty typical of alot of situations. I experience this constantly also. My therapists always tells me that all you can do as a mom is be the best you can be for your kids...and they will grow up knowing this. And yes, most likely he probably is scared to face them, after all he knows at the deepest level, he is not there for them so it is much easier to not talk about feelings with them and forget about the guilt. Keep being the loving supportive parent that you !

You didn't get the memo that it's ALL about him?!? ((((HUG)))) Sorry you and you children are going through this. Hopefully he'll grow "some" and step up.

I'm right here with you, sister! My husband hasn't seen his son or talked to him since June 17th (33 days, but who's counting). Our son has a cell phone so he wouldn't have to go thru me to correspond with him. I agree with erineb that you have to be careful not to let your anger and resentment carry over to your children. I am trying very hard not to pass along any negative feelings about daddy to my son. My therapist said that I most definitely should not lie to him or say things like "Daddy loves you". We have to focus on being the loving supportive parent that we are meant to be. I would be happy to talk to you anytime about it if you want. My therapist would say you are dealing with it by being pissed. He said he didn't think i was allowing myself to be mad. I think inside I'm VERY mad, but what good is it going to do. I don't think it will change his behavior. AND I am afraid that if I allow the anger to come out that my child WILL see through it and I don't want that to happen.

my stbx hasnt seen rach going on 7 months..sadie since good friday and ella for the going on 7 months..IDIOTS

Experiencing this too, and hoping it will change....although the little monster in me that I can't let out thinks my STBX doesn't deserve the love of my son. My STBX left 8 weeks ago and has now had my son 4 nights and 5 days. My son also cannot really express his anger and sadness to his dad and my therapist says it is because he doesn't really trust my STBX. This is especially hard because when my STBX was busy blaming the end of our marriage on me he pointed to the fact that I worked so much and he claims he raised our son alone...not true, I was home every night and every weekend and never traveled for work so we were always under the same roof every night. Now he can go weeks without seeing my son and apparently it is the responsibility of a 10yo to call his dad to say goodnight and I am sure to get a text like this from time to time.."since I haven't heard from (son" in three days can you please have him call me." I also stopped making excuses for my STBX....even when he invited my son on a trip and then begged off 12 hours later. I wonder if he will be better with his whore's kids...if she ever leaves her husband that is. Fucktard. Be strong. Parent well. You'll have to pick up the slack to fill the hole left behind.