Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Been on DS slightly more than a year now. Have met quite a few DS people in person, and am very close to a few that are geographically close as well. Most of my pics are of me and various DS friends I have met or am close to. So now I recently uploaded a pic of a DS FRIEND who apparently has hurt some people on here and caused alot of stir. It was "suggested" to me to remove it as I was hurting alot of people with this picture of me and him. He has not and never will be a romantic or sexual friend to me. He is just that. One that even isnt that close to me due to differences of opinions and geographics. So since he is not that close to me and just someone I know and recently visted, I went ahead and removed it - for the better of ???? Then I uploaded pics that could easily be mis-interrupted with another male DS friend. Someone I am very very close too. Difference? This male friend has not been involved with any DS females (including me). So he has not hurt any.
Now I am thinking. I did not do anything to hurt anyone; except be a friend to someone who has. Thinking. This is my "page", I am not uploading it to the boards and to my knowledge, there is only one person on my friends list who is even close to this male friend of mine who has supposedly hurt many. I only know of two.
He is my friend. Has done nothing wrong toward me; however, I do agree, that what he did to the one person was totally wrong. And this has caused a huge rift in our friendship.
I did not upload the picture to cause any pain however, ME is meeting DS people live, in person. That is something I enjoy doing.
So... do I keep that pic off? Even though it supposedly causes pain to others? If that pic had been uploaded BEFORE I knew of the situation IT WOULD STAY!!! As he has been a 7-month friend of mine now. But it was taken and uploaded AFTER I became aware of the situation he caused. So that is the ONLY reason I have removed it -- for now.
But its my picture. On my page. With my friend.
btw, its not anything sexual or racy. Not even close to being like the two I put up of me and another DS friend -- and those pics will stay!!
So I am torn. Its not my fault he hurt others. However, I also agree with others that what he did was wrong. So.... what do you all think?
And also, these two women who got hurt? They are not on my friends list. And one is supposed to be gone so...... dont understand how I am offending someone if they arent even on my friends list unless I am offending the one person who is there and asked me to remove it. But then she should admit; it was offending HER. but she only said it was offensive to "many".
Posted on 07/19/08, 07:07 pm