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Would U send your ex a birthday card?
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My birthday has come and gone by now and no contact so I guess she has let go of me which is probably a good thing for me and her. Our last contact was almost 4 months ago by phone.
Should I or not send her a birthday card? Her birthday is one week after mine. I have to been asking myself this question the whole week. I say to myself I just want to wish her a happy birthday and hope she is doing well. Do I feel like we can be friends now? I don't know but I do want to eventually. When she left she said we could be friends but I just didn't want to be just friends. So now is she done with me? I did and said somethings to hurt her and I wonder if she meant what she said about being friends Posted on 05/07/08, 05:05 pm |
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Nope, I wouldn't. 
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I think it depends on what you are looking for by sending a card. It's okay to let her know you remembered her birthday - but if it is going to cause you to begin obssessing over her and cause you distress; don't send the card.
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Nope. I definitely won't be sending him a card for our "first anniversary" on Monday either! LOL
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Both birthdays came and went, no cards were exchanged, same for all other events and holidays.
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Not a good idea. Just move forward.
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No, especially since she forgot yours. Since your birthday is first, you can always only send her one of she sends you one. It's my stbx's birthday tomorrow, and I will give him a card and a present, but if I don't get one for my birthday in August I wont give him any more. It's not playing tit for tat or being petty, just leaving the ball in their court.
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No, I would say don't do it.
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I am faced with the same thing. He calls me just about weekly for reasurance that we are remanding friends. His birthday is next week and he did call me on mine but I think instead of sending him a card I will just call him.
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she didn't send you one so don't send her one.
my birthday is on may 14th and my stbx is coming over and he is ordering chinese food for my birthday dinner and giving me a card from the kids only. (although, if he said he wants to be friends there is no reason why he cant buy me a card from himself. It's so confusing)
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Whether she sent you a card or not should have nothing to do with your decision - You have to honestly look at what your motive is behind sending her a card. If it is sent with good intentions and truly wanting to be friends, then yes you should. If your motive has anything to do with manipulation (wanting to get back at her for forgetting your b/day or hanging on to the idea of getting back together, etc), then no you shouldn't.
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