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Reply #11 -
05/16/08
11:01am
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you have to keep hanging on, the light is there, sometimes it takes a lot longer for some people to see it, and it's especially harder when you get those e-mails. i would not read them or tell her to stop contacting you. everytime you hear from her it opens up the wound. the light is there. keep motoring toward it. 
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Reply #12 -
05/16/08
11:07am
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take care. you are strong, but no one is strong every moment. divorce is a very hard process that involves way too many downs and eventually ups, too.
it is ok to feel bad. the feelings pass.
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Reply #13 -
05/16/08
11:09am
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She wants you there in her life cuz you are strong. She is a self centered person and is only thinking of herself. Don't let her get to you. I know in your head your having conversations with her. I know this is hard I'm going through the same thing. When I start thinking of her i pray.
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Reply #14 -
05/16/08
11:24am
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I'm also in the same boat. My wife left me and though we still talk on the phone for long periods and it makes me feel great, it isn't helping me heal. I want her back, but I want her to want me back...
I just started two days ago on the "Not Calling" her but instead letting her call me. When we trade off days with the kids I keep it simple and hug her as I leave. It hurts so bad to sit at home or be at work and know that you want someone back, but you can't talk to them because you don't want to push them away.
If you still care about her, or you just want to move on with your life then you have to stop letting her get to you. Stay away from her as best you can and work on your happiness.
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Reply #15 -
05/16/08
11:30am
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I am new to this, my husband left only 2 weeks ago but he has not shown any signs that he loves me or missses me which I think I should be thankful for (that is what people say) because if he tells me he loves me and misses me then I would be more confused. Try not to talk to her, it seems like she is not a very stable person. stay away.
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Reply #16 -
05/16/08
11:30am
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Jim I'm the same way man -- I was doing REALLY REALLY well up until Wednesday night when my ex called and started telling me she's had time to reflect and look at things differently
it brings back that glimmer of hope but now that I think about it, it seems like she was at a low point herself and needed the ego boost of knowing i was still going to fight and beg for her.. it makes me sick to think the woman i loved so much is knowingly trying to replace me with a polar opposite because she is an 'independent' person who cannot be alone.
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Reply #17 -
05/16/08
11:31am
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I wish I could say something to make you feel better but I am in the same boat. He did all the bad things and dragged me along for 8 months, and well, I still am being dragged around. Something I am working on. When you have no feeling for someone they just dont care and to them its no big deal if they hurt you. We just all need to stick together to help each other out.
Good luck!!
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Reply #18 -
05/16/08
7:55pm
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Stop looking at her myspace page (or whatever profile you're referring to). I used to do that and it did nothing but cause pain. I deleted the link, deleted the pictures I had of her and I don't call her anymore.
I want to call her, I want to hold her, I want to do all of the things that I know I should not. It's a tough, tough time, but it has to get better.
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Reply #19 -
05/16/08
8:02pm
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I am sorry that you are having such a rough time. these emotions are so raw and painful... My ex and I got a long so well when we decided to finally call it quits, and he was so nice.. I thought maybe there is a chance it will work out.. turns out he had someone else already, but he didnt have to deal with me as a wife so thats why he was nice... screw him...manipulative ppl are poison
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Reply #20 -
05/16/08
8:51pm
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The light is there, but you must be patient and go through the"stuff" you gotta go through to find it. Be with friends, go to church if you like, find interests to pursue, be sad, mad and confused. It's all part of the process.
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