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Broken is right.....I wanted to know so bad I could taste it. Well, when the truth finally did come out (and is usually does at some point) I almost went over the edge too. Was more than I could handle.

You'll probably know in time. Just keep taking care of yourself and do what you need to do for YOU!

Hugs to you hon......

Ugh, my ex was cheating on me with men, nothing makes nightmares like your ex having homosexual affairs!

Courier-don't quite know what to say to that...
Brokenheart-my H denied it to my face on two totally separate occasions. Trust me, if that's what's going on it will come out. I'm not saying that's the case with you but please focus on yourself right now and making yourself a stronger person.

Put it this way:

She was off having her fun and I was left home alone dealing with my exes crap.

I was so messed up emotionally and mentally, I was impotent for a little over a month because my imagination went nuts filling in the details. I was miserable because it wasn't like a TV show where you can turn the channel, it's inside of you and it follows you.

So yeah, it can have mental, emotional and physiological results.

Does it matter? Does it change anything? Know will only do two things either drive you crazy or put an end to the "Why". I wanted to know because his abrupt change in behavior finally made sense. It hurt, I was angry because he denied it also. I just wanted to know if he could lie to me so easily to my face. I knew then he was no longer the man I knew. He was a stranger and would be treated accordingly.

Your mind may wonder and wander about all the possiblities. Regardless, knowing didn't do me any good. I don't think it will do you any good.

I've just found out that my stbx now has a GF, he told our daughter this week - that part has been hell - he's afraid to tell his son (who's 20). Has it helped - maybe it's finally pushed me at moving on - its hard to realize that you can be replaced so fast after 21 years of marriage - I now have doubts that this happened and he met her recently like he says - it certainly has made me angry at him - which has been a good thing to push me forward. My daughter's response is that she told him it's kind of fast - and she doesn't want to meat her, see her, know her name - she wants nothing to do with her right now. So I guss I'm sitting her with mixed emotions as to whether it truly helped or made it worse - I guess both.

Part of you wants to know and the other part doesn't. I guess I would have to ask how would I benefit from knowing. If you were still together it may be worth it to comfirm your suspicions.

Part of you wants to know and the other part doesn't. I guess I would have to ask how would I benefit from knowing. If you were still together it may be worth it to comfirm your suspicions.

Knowing would help, but hurt like hell!!! It might help you hate him which can help! But alternatively, very probably he's telling the truth and he just doesn't think you're the one. It's no reflection on you, and I pray one day you'll find a man who will love you with every fibre of his being!