Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Short answer No, what you would gain,is more hurt, pain,etc..I know as the saying goes; curiosty killed the cat..I found out by accident, that my ex was banging some hag that came to our wedding. I think it made me sick more, due to the fact I knew this bitch. All that went around in my head, was them too together,not a pretty site..trust me.. I lost confidence, energy, became sick, while they were off banging each other senseless..Now, I have my head screwed on again. I could not care less, I deserve better, and will have better. I am even leaving the State, to make a fresh start. Before i leave, I will be putting my arts and crafts talent to work. I bought a lovely picture frame,a shot of me, on our wedding day, and cut a picture of her head from the wedding, and stuck it on mine.With a post it note, hope you cheaters have a great life.. Childish, yes, but whatever floats your boat to make you feel good.

Well I really want to thank you for all of your support. It makes me feel better. I am not sure if I would find out if he has found someone new or was with someone while we were together he has moved back to his mom's and pretty much cut off all communication with myself and my family. We weren't married so I don't have to get a divorce but it feels like one. He acts like he never knew me and doesn't want me to contact anyone in his family. Or my family to call him.

My soon to be ex still can not come clean even though he knows that I know. My husband is also 37 and I helped him get his career and look where I am at now, getting divorced. The reason why they cheat is because they are looking for something that has always been there but they are too blind to see. (Self-Fullment) is something they will always look for and because they have a hard time recognizing it they will always be out there looking for it. One day when they wake up they will realize what a good thing they had and now it is their lost and someone elses gain.

Yes and no when you know whats going on it makes it easy to move on but hurts so much to know whats going on and they will deny the whole thing.Found missing condoms found condoms in the yard yet she still denies whats going on.its like they think you are a dumbass and cannot figure it out.Your gut will tell you whats going on and what to do you will be ok

Does it really matter now if you are not together? I wouldn't want those images in my head. You had a long relationship. I hurts to be left by someone when you love them. Maybe he is having a mid-life crisis. Maybe he has known for a long time that you weren't the one for him, but he was afraid to "rock the boat". You deserve to be with someone that will truely love and appreciate you.

Ok, so you want to know. You already know it but just want him to admit it. Why put yourself through such pain. They gave themselves a life sentence of distrust. How can they live with them, knowing what they did. And what is going to stop them from doing it to them.

very true knuckle very true it will not last