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He really hurt me in therapy
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I am feeling kinda depressed tonight. I am reflecting back on what was said during our marriage counseling and one of the many issues he brought up was that I "was not evolving enough for him." He said "Let's take a look at her in 5 years and she will still be the same!" Well, that really hurts me cause that means that he did not like me as a person. He said that "I was not bringing anything new to the table". I guess he was getting bored with me, but man, it really stings. I feel like a loser.
Posted on 05/05/08, 07:05 pm |
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My husband told me he was tired of "coming down" to my emotional level. 
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what is that supposed to mean, I didn't realise that evolving was one of the marriage vows
it just sounds like a very callous way to talk about someone else, very clinical and detatched, like he looks down on you because you are not evolving, like he is superior because he is evolving I am so sorry he is hurting you like this. Maybe its time for counselling to end, if he's using it as a way to be horrible to you, what did the counsellor say?
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Counseling ended last summer and we are divorced now. He filed. And yes I guess he was very arrogant about it cause he was saying about himself how he was always coming up w/new hobbies and trying to expand himself. And I guess I wasn't.
Our therapist frequently asked me how I was doing during the sessions cause as she put it "it was alot to take in."
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Get a therapist for yourself - you are a good person and don't deserve that crap.
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Those sudden flashbacks bring back all the pain and I'm sorry for that. But try not to let it keep you down! Let "himself" go. Sounds like he didn't appreciate you for what you DID bring to the table.
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yeah good riddance to an arrogant asshole.
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Did he say exactly WHAT he was evolving into. He obviously had a long way to go to evolve into a human being. He should probably start by pulling his head out of his a**.
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An evolved human being would not be cruel and judgemental. His only hobby should be learning humility. He sounds like a Neandrathal. ((hugs)) to you.
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i feel like a loser and really stupid
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