Bipolar Disorder Support Group

If both you and your husband want to save your marriage then absolutely you can. You don't even need joint counseling. Go to the book store and get some great books on marriage counseling and read them together.
Unless you're not sure on your committmment or his committment to the marriage then you might need to reconsider going back to therapy.
You are not alone. My husband and I divorced and now live together again. Being in a relationship when one partner is bipolar is very challenging.

If you cannot do counseling then I would make sure that you guys make time regularly to talk about things between you and things that bother you and maybe even make a date night regularly to woo each other and spend time together. Communicating is very important.When you do talk mirror each others statements it sounds hokey but it helps.Like after he tells you that he feels X when you do Y then you turn around and go ....so what I hear is that you feel X when I do Y? That way no one can say that they did not understand a point the other is making. Also you KNOW the other person HEARS what you are saying.LOL .It works though.:)

I was diagnosed 2 months after meeting my husband. It has been 7 years now. I can honestly say, back in the honeymoon stage it was a lot easier. Now that we are married, he seems less understanding than he was in the beginning. I feared this from the beginning ... his becoming resentful of my condition.

Are you members of a church organization? If so, you can probably get free couples counseling with your clergy. What has worked for us is having him attend some sessions with me and my pdoc. We still have problems, but we're both trying. That's what's important: That both people work to heal the wounds.

Thanks to all so far. It is helpful to know I am not the only one this happens to. I'm not a member to a chirch group...but I may look for one nearby that may offer counseling anyway. Thanks!

My fiance and I bought a book titled "Loving Someone Bipolar" - sorry I am at work and don't remember the author. But my fiance read it and is much more understanding and it has helped us greatly. Keeping the lines of communication open is important. Also remember you may have the disorder, but the disorder does not define who you are. Talk to your Pdoc about possibly changing/adding to your meds. Tegretol and Ativan keep me calm and sane. Good Luck!

My fella also read the book Shell has mentioned, he said it really helped him understand (I have only been dx 8 months, but I have been like this for the 12 years he and I have been together). It also helped for him to come with me to my pdoc appointments. I think honest communication is a must, also with an understanding that this is tough on both of you. Many people with BP have sucessful and happy relationships, so don't ever give up hope