Bereavement - Teens Support Group

I don't think that they've moved on, I think they are just really good as masking their feelings. It's been 2 months, the wound is still fresh. If it only took 2 months to get over their friends death they really are heartless. I'm sorry it makes you mad and that it confuses you, maybe its their way of dealing with it. When my mom died I couldn't talk about what happened for months it hurt to think about it, to talk about her because it made it real. I'm here if you ever need to talk.

I don't think its that they've forgotten about him. People react to death differently, and their response seems to be to just try to block it out, because it would just hurt too much if they didn't. Talking isn't necessarily part of the grief process, some people like to talk and others don't. Try talking to them about how you feel like they've forgotten about him because they don't talk to him, tell them you'd like to be able to talk about Ryan to them. See if it works. Ryan would want you (and them) to be happy, don't drown in your sadness. Live your life.

i hear ya girl. when my dad died my mom came to me and my brother 5 months later and told us she wanted to start dating. it was totally fucked up

It has been a year and a half since i lost my cousin and im still not over it. It takes time and it may take longer for some people than others.

I think some people choose to ignore feelings rather than coping with them by talking about it. I guess everyone's different. One of my best friends died 20 months ago and everyone else just got over it in a day but it still hurts me now. I think some people just tend to not talk about it.

nobody every really forgets. My brother dided almost a year ago and we even though i dont talk about him with some people i talk about him all the time. some people cant handle talking about it. when my brother first died it was so hard to accept. i thought if i didnt talk about him then it was like he never died. It may just take some time before everyone is ready to talk about him.

There's a crucial part in these situations, which people often tend to cut off themselves from. The fact that Ryan cant be seen around or you cant see his body, doesnt means that he's gone forever somewhere far beyond your reach. But instead, now he's jus all united with the Universe as ONE. Your thought of separation, which creates a boundary that Ryan is no more here and that nobody thinks or talks about him, is to be managed. We all come into this Flesh n Bone body to experience this wonderful world of ours, and sometimes our machinery gets damaged or due to some accidents we have to leave those bodies of ours. But tht doesnt means that we become detached from our freinds, relatives n family after that.
Remember- You will see the World with your eyes, in the manner your Heart would want to see it. Cause there is no actual reality, but You create YOUR reality.
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